when to say i love you

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-27-2004
when to say i love you
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Thu, 05-27-2004 - 1:27pm
I am wondering how long do people take to say I love you. I have been with a man for almost a year. We said I love you one time. He admitted that he only said it because I said it. I am 25 years old and ready to settle down. He is 29 and said that he has never been inlove before. Am I wasting my time. I am inlove with him. If he isn't love with me by now will he ever be
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-07-2004
Thu, 05-27-2004 - 10:00pm
If he only said it b/c you said it...what does that say to you? Doesn't sound to me like he's that interested in the idea of love or commitment. How has this past year been for your relationship? Do you see each other often? Have mutual friends? Met each other's family or talked on the phone with them? Why are you ready to settle down at 25? Have you dated too many men and just want to stop? I guess I would just like more details on your position. I only said I love you when I meant it, in my case, my ex said it first and I told him I had to think about it.(it was still early in my estimation of the relationship to commit to that sort of feeling..4 months)We lasted 7yrs. Also, with guys, you know how hard it is for them to say anything emotional..so if you really want to know how he feels, you just have to bear through the 'i don't knows' and try to ask questions that are specific enough for you to have the answers you need. Does he want to settle down with you? Does he love you enough to bother? And finally, what's 'enough' for you?

Anyway, write back if you want. Hope I gave you something to think about. good luck
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Registered: 07-24-2003
Fri, 05-28-2004 - 12:02pm

Hello eternity!