When to stop dating more than one
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When to stop dating more than one
| Fri, 07-28-2006 - 12:17pm |
Hi.....Iv'e been dating many nice ladies but no real relationships for about 3 months now.....I recently met someone who I am really into and it is different than all the rest and who could turn into a lasting relationship..I also am meeting someone for a second date who is also a wonderful person but not on the same level as yet as the prior lady..but close ..They both really like me by the way......I am a little confused because I am not used to dating two who I feel a strong attraction toward..................When is it right to just give in to one and only one? Or should I?......Neither one has said they prefer I only date them....P.S. No sex as yet with either....but that could change soon with the first......Am I over-THINKING myself here...............I have a tendency to do that!!! HELP REQUIRED.....I do not want to hurt either one....I am very honest and upfront...Any Advise from the ladies out there as to how I should proceed..............THANKS

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For me personally, I stop dating other people when one person I'm dating really starts to stand out as a good match for me over the other people. But even if this happens early on, I prefer not to commit to exclusivity until I've been dating the person regularly for at least 6-8 weeks. That's because it takes a while to start to get to know the person well enough to begin to have an inkling of whether they are really who and how I might perceive them to be.
I wait to have sex until I've decided I know the guy well enough to commit to dating him exclusively, but that's a personal decision...you have to decide what you're comfortable with. Be aware, though, that some people (probably more women than men) will assume that if you sleep together, you are automatically exclusive, so to avoid misunderstandings, it's best to discuss expectations before you sleep together, IMO.
Sheri
I responded to you before reading the other response...I personally would not be comfortable with being "road tested" like that. If you are going to do that, definitely be clear that you're not exclusive before you sleep together.
Sheri
HOLY COW!!
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