When to stop dating more than one

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Registered: 06-05-2006
When to stop dating more than one
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Fri, 07-28-2006 - 12:17pm
Hi.....Iv'e been dating many nice ladies but no real relationships for about 3 months now.....I recently met someone who I am really into and it is different than all the rest and who could turn into a lasting relationship..I also am meeting someone for a second date who is also a wonderful person but not on the same level as yet as the prior lady..but close ..They both really like me by the way......I am a little confused because I am not used to dating two who I feel a strong attraction toward..................When is it right to just give in to one and only one? Or should I?......Neither one has said they prefer I only date them....P.S. No sex as yet with either....but that could change soon with the first......Am I over-THINKING myself here...............I have a tendency to do that!!! HELP REQUIRED.....I do not want to hurt either one....I am very honest and upfront...Any Advise from the ladies out there as to how I should proceed..............THANKS

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Sat, 07-29-2006 - 11:16am

Hmm...now see, unless the woman you went out with last night *asked* you whether you were dating other people or you were on the verge of having sex, I think just coming out and telling someone that you are dating other people is kind of tacky. IMO, it's just assumed that you are unless and until you discuss it and agree otherwise. So I assume that any guy I'm seeing is dating other people, but unless we're at the point of sleeping together or I ask, I don't want to HEAR about it, LOL! And even if I do ask you if you're dating other people, all I really need is a yes or no answer--I don't want specifics or details!!!

Anyway, I hope things work out with the woman you feel more attracted to...good luck!

Sheri




Edited 7/29/2006 11:18 am ET by northwestwanderer
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Sat, 07-29-2006 - 11:47am
Sheri; She broached the subject.....And wanted specifics....Let's see..like how many others I have kissed like I did with her the last two weeks...I stumbled on that one and answered truthfully..ONE..If she wants to know I'm going to give it out...She can do with the info as she pleases....bye
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Sat, 07-29-2006 - 11:50am

Ah, ok, thanks for clarifying. Now that to me is weird, LOL!!! I wouldn't want to know specifics, personally, and I know most of my female friends feel the same way. But different strokes for different folks, I guess ;-)!!!

Sheri

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