when to take it to the next step

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Registered: 06-09-2004
when to take it to the next step
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Wed, 06-09-2004 - 5:31am
I've been dating my boyfriend for about seven months and I enjoy spending time with him immensely. We talk nightly on the phone and when we're together have a great time. I am in love with him and I honestly believe he feels very close to me as well. The problem is that I don't feel we get to spend enough time with each other. We see each other possibly one or two days a week and I want to see him more. We both are working hard and it's understandable when we've got work issues in the way but I get frustrated when he makes plans to do other things during our optimal free time. I'm trying not to be unreasonable and be understanding and so I haven't approached it with him yet. I am curious as to whether or not anyone else has any ideas.
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Registered: 05-26-2004
Wed, 06-09-2004 - 8:53am
Do you see him at all during the weekends or is it just the one to two nights during the week?
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Registered: 06-09-2004
Wed, 06-09-2004 - 12:31pm
Actually it's one day of the weekend or two or one day of weekend and one during the week. You're right, I need to just start a discussion. I just feel like I'm getting mixed signals as he always talks about missing me, or wishing I was there or talking about how we need to spend more time with each other but when the rubber hits the road, his calendar is sometimes just too full.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-09-2004 - 1:39pm
If you really want to make time for someone - you do. I had a bf who whined bc he never saw me: I was working 50 hrs/week, taking 3 college classes and on the college boxing team. What did he do? He joined me at the boxing gym. We caught up on day's activities while he held the punching bag for me.

I think you need to be very clear with him about what you need. If more quality time (for me, that face to face not phone) then say it. Look at his schedule with him and see if you can find places to meet up. Maybe you could have lunch together in the day? Or join each other with some things?

Good luck!