When will he call?????

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Registered: 10-11-2005
When will he call?????
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Tue, 10-11-2005 - 11:47pm

Ok...this guy and I have been "flirting" for a while now (I have had a huge crush on him for a long time) and we ended up at a party together on Saturday night, ended up together all night (no sex at all! just in bed together) and the next morning he was all so lovey dovey, calling me cutie and kissing me at every opportunity and of course taking my phone number telling me he will call. I certainly didn't expect him to call me on Sunday and I could even excuse it on Monday (both he and I are divorced with children and I know his son was in until Monday evening) but I sorta expected a phone call this evening....NOPE.

How long before I just go what the heck, it was a one night thing and things go back to normal? It is driving me NUTS tonight because I really do like this guy alot and we have known each other for a while...just not well.

I feel silly, I am 35 years old and I feel like a teenager again sitting there waiting for that one guy to call...shouldn't I be over all that by now????

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Wed, 10-12-2005 - 8:37am

I don't get this, women think that by crawling into bed with a man and not having sex that somehow they aren't making a horrible dating error. If you liked him so much you should have suggested a date, not an all-night snuggle.

Now the two of you are off on the wrong foot. He hasn't called, he might call in the future. If you have his number you could call him and suggest coffee, but it will be very hard to put this thing back on course.

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Registered: 09-01-2005
Wed, 10-12-2005 - 8:52am

>>shouldn't I be over all that by now????>>

It's not so much that you should be over it as it is that you should be smarter than that. (Disclaimer: I am not calling you dumb). I'm just saying that you should know that when a guy doesn't call, he doesn't have serious romantic feelings for you.
It's very simple and yet so very hard to accept. Even still, you have to move on. If he calls 2 weeks from now, are you going to take him seriously anyway? Of course, this is barring any serious disaster, illness, etc. that could keep him from calling but come on, you wouldn't want to be treated like that, right?
Just move on and take it as a lesson for next time.

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Fri, 10-14-2005 - 12:55pm

Just because you're older and wiser doesn't necessarily mean you're "over" these kind of things, especially if it's been a while since life has offered the possibility of anything other than the usual work and home and child rearing routine. Just try to distract yourself as best as possible with your kids, friends (any movies you want to see), hobbies, etc. And don't give up trying to meet other guys. It's always easiest to deal with someone you're really into in the precarious beginning stages when you have other possibilities hovering around.


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