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| Mon, 06-07-2004 - 3:06pm |
I hope I can get some advice here.
I'm 27 and, obviously, single. I can't manage to meet guys, I've never had serious realtionship and no BF since I left college. Every time I meet a great guy he's married so of course this never goes farther than a little flirting. I don't knwo what is wrong with me, I'm smart, I'm funny, I'm slightly overweight but care for my outlook... I'm the definition for "nice girl". And still, it looks that no guy notices me or wants to be with me.
I don't go to bars or club bc I think it's not the right place to find someone for a serious relationship. All my friends are married and surrounded by married friends, so there's no chance I'm going to met someone through friends.
Now I've just started a new job and there's a guy who looks nice but we don't work together at all and hardly see each other, I don't know how to get noticed and, with my luck, he's probably not available. Plus, he's a colleague so I can't be direct or I'll be too embarrased if he's not interested.
I'm stuck!!! What should I do???

It's just a thought, but Pianoguy wonders if the men you associate with ACTUALLY TAKE YOU SERIOUSLY?
Your personality might be so "nice"---that the male population will flirt with you, but write it all off as 'a harmless encounter?' And without resorting to cliche..there's often a male perception concerning women who are...err.."slightly overweight!"
So while you may be a great catch...you might want to consider dropping a little weight, treating yourself to a new outfit (for work), and then DAZZLE THE SOCKS off the co-worker?As a matter of fact, he MIGHT approach you...once he has discovered that you've made a minor alteration or two?
Wanna give this idea a try?
Pianoguy
I don't care for pianoman's suggestion to lose the weight to get a man...IF you want to lose weight for yourself because you don't like how you feel after walking up a flight of stairs or because you can't really find clothes that you like that's one thing...but to get a man? I don't think pianoman understands that this is something people have to take on for themselves. And while it's true some men (and women) are superficial about weight and other things, I'd think that finding someone who likes you how you are is very important.
Most guys you are looking at are married, but some are also running from women in your age bracket who are looking for husbands. Consider dating someone older...I know lot of men in their late 30s who are tired of being single and wonder where did all the nice girls go?
About the guy at work...first consider if you really want to proceed with this coworker. Then ask him to coffee. Nothing ventured nothing gained.
Anyway, thanks for the insight,