Where do we stand with each other?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-07-2006
Where do we stand with each other?
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Fri, 07-07-2006 - 12:49pm

I would be so grateful if you would reply, it's driving me crazy.

I met a fantastic guy who had got a job offer 250 miles away. We hit off, and dated for 4 weeks nevertheless. But we both agreed it was bad timing, although agreed to keep in touch.
He left about 4 weeks ago (although his job has only just started this week) and we've had some sort of contact every day. only a short phonecall, text message, email.

I know it's for the best that nothing is serious, and I'm happy with the minimal contact, because I'm going travelling soon and stuck in this city before that, hence the bad timing.
However in late September or December,depending on my job, I'm moving away, relocating to London which is a lot closer to where he will be. I'm secretly hoping that we will be able to make a go of it then. But in the meantime, I don't know where we stand. He's been back to visit once, and we had a great time, he even calls me 'dear', plus there's been a few drunken phonecalls from his friends saying he misses me and has been talking about me.

Even so, i'm not his girlfriend in the official sense. Neither of us has talked about what we are to each other. I'd quite like to know what he really thinks because I've been used before and got burned- I am absolutely not up for being someone's f** buddy (cynical, I know). Still, I don't want to force any heavy question on him and scare him off completely

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2003
Fri, 07-07-2006 - 4:26pm

Sept and especially Dec are still far off. I think for now if you get to see each other here and there just enjoy the time, and don't do anything you'll feel uncomfortable about later. But just live your life for now - as in meet people, have a social life, have fun.


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