Where to go from here..

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Registered: 07-10-2006
Where to go from here..
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Mon, 07-10-2006 - 10:11am
Im in my early twenties, and I havent had too many dating expiriences. I used to think I was as shy as they come, but I recently fond out that was not the case. Ive been flirting with a friend-of-a-friend for a little while now (and I feel quite acomplished, I didnt even know I could flirt untill a few months ago) and he was even flirting back... for the most part. So.. a few days ago my friend calls me, and her honey takes the phone to tell me that the guy in question has a thing for me but he is too shy to say anything (and apperantly just as ill-expirienced). Ive seen him a few times since then, but because we're both very much aware of how attracted we are to eachother, its just a big awkward bunch of silence. Ive come to the dramatic realization that it is up to me to make the first move... but I dont even know where to start. Especially due to the sudden lack of conversation and eye contact (which is a darn shame with that boys gorgeous eyes). We have tons in common, I dont know why we cant seem to make casual conversation... anyways, I dont realy know where to go from this point.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 07-10-2006 - 12:58pm

mabala...

Here's a suggestion from Pianoguy:

What's wrong with "double dating with another couple" the first time around?

This way neither one of you will be self-conscious because there will be 2 other people to talk with! As you gradually relax....date #2 should be a 'piece of cake?'

Good Luck!

Pianoguy

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Mon, 07-10-2006 - 3:21pm
Well, that is a good suggestion, but its not too far off from what we usually do. My best friend, her husband, the guy and myself usually hang out all the time, on occasion there are a few more people, but not too often. They've even been arranging for us to have to sit next to eachother, but I think its making him even more nervous than I am, which is so adorable... yet so very aggrivating. I just want to turn to him and say something in the same vein of that rod stewart song 'do ya think Im sexy' but Im horrible with words... and I dont want to be corny or overt... on the other hand, maybe I have to be bluntly obvious for anything to happen...
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 07-10-2006 - 4:20pm

mabala...

PG's PS:

To see if ANY RELATIONSHIP HAS A CHANCE....one of the 2 partners has to be the aggressor!

If you both sit still and say "nothing"----NOTHING WILL HAPPEN!

Pianoguy