Where's my 'happily ever after'?

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Registered: 12-31-1969
Where's my 'happily ever after'?
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Mon, 07-19-2004 - 8:56pm
Hi, I don't really know where to start. Umm.. I've been hung up on this guy for a looong time, we went out a few times and I know that he likes me too. He's been kind of messing me around though, telling me that he doesn't know what he wants, but all the while maintaining that he likes me. Not to mention the fact that he's been doing the same thing with someone else simultaneously, although I'm not sure that's still happening. It sounds really bad when you don't know the full story, but I know that he doesn't mean to hurt me. I must sound like one of those women that let themselves be strung along by someone who isn't worth their time, but I have never met anyone like him before. Maybe it's just my romantic idealistic nature that tells me we're perfect for each other, but I really think I could easily fall in love with him. If he would open his eyes to what's there, that is. Most of the time I know that it would be smarter to just get over him, and I've been trying, but I guess don't know how to. I'm not even sure that I want to. I guess I'm still hanging on to that last little bit of hope that tells me we'll eventually be together. Am I stupid for even pursuing this? Or for thinking there's something special about it? I can't seem to get past this and it's driving me crazy. When did everything get so damn complicated? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks:)
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Registered: 06-13-2004
Mon, 07-19-2004 - 9:09pm
You can't- unfortunately force anyone to love you or commit to you, if its right, it just happens. I personally would not like the competition thing with the other girl. The fact that he is "choosing" between you and someone else, would be enough to bother me and I would have been out of the situation a long time ago. Of course when we sit here and give advice it is so easy to stand here and say what we would do OUTSIDE of the situation, but if we were the ones in the situation, it may be a different story. But that's why you are here right? For an unbiased opinion? I would disengage myself entirely from the situation. Maybe then he will wake up and