Where's the ring?
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Where's the ring?
| Thu, 07-22-2004 - 3:44pm |
My guy asked me if i could see myself spending the rest of my life with one person and other weird questions then said he got me a ring for my birthday. my birthday was 2 months ago. He hasn't even mentioned it since. Should i expect a proposal?

You may want to talk to him about it.
Either way, you should talk to him.
I met a guy when I was 19. Two weeks later I moved in with him. 6 months later we get pregnant and he proposes. We lost that pregnancy, very hard on both of us. He's a heavy drinker and cannot work because he was on disability from a really bad accident 2 years before I met him. I was working at a gas station making minimum wage. He brought in half of what I made from his disability money. He was in charge of paying the rent, I took care of everything else. A year and a half goes by since we lost the first pregnancy and I get pregnant again. Carried to full term and give birth to a very big healthy boy. The night I give birth he goes out and gets drunk. Then I find out he's got a cocaine problem too. Slowly things start getting worse, and since I stayed with him he's expecting I will always put up with him. I was devastated!!! The last 3 months of our relationship I was working full time and paying for everything. He was spending the rent money on drugs and alcohol. He would take off in the middle of the night with my car and be gone for days. I would have to get my mom to watch my son and take me to work. The last weekend we were together? (2 weeks before our 5th year anniversary) he took off in my car, took both my cameras and an electronic keyboard I had and pawned the stuff and lent out my car to some lowlife who took off with it!!!
So I had spent 4 years engaged trying to hold on to things because he kept saying he needed my help to get over his addictions. I wanted to hold our family together. We never set a date for the wedding. Any time I brought it up-- he would take off for a few days because he couldn't *handle* it.
Now I know better.
You had mentioned, I believe, that he was moving in a few months. Talk to him about his expectations, and don't be afraid to voice your own. If you want more of a committment, ask him for one. The worst he can say is no and then you can move on.