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Who pays for dates?
| Sun, 08-13-2006 - 10:39am |
Who pays for dates?
- You
- Him
- Her
- Take turns
- Share expenses equally
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| Sun, 08-13-2006 - 10:39am |
I had to reply to this one because it is not always a clear cut decision. If I like the guy as in want to see/date him again, I expect him to pay for it all and if he expects me to pay for any, it is over before it starts haha. If I don't like him in the "dating way" I offer to pay my share as to not take advantage of someone I know I will not got out with again. If it is only a drink then he should pay no matter what, I mean it's not that much money. I am a pretty honest consciencous person so I don't know if others do what I do, many women have the guy pay all the time, like him or not.
Edited 8/13/2006 12:52 pm ET by terrilee2006
Edited 8/13/2006 1:33 pm ET by terrilee2006
I'd say in a "just dating" situation, whoever asks should pay. Though, if a guy asks, I'd at least offer to pay the tip or pay for drinks or something.
In a relationship, I'd say "take turns."
Also, now when I have first dates( assuming they asked me) I have become accustomed to letting the guy pay for the whole evening. It was hard to let this happen at first but the fact is it shows some genuine interest on the guys part and they asked you. I think it is good for people to allow themselves to be treated every once in a while.
Frankly, I feel a bit guilty if I expect him to pay. In an initial dating situation, I would rather just split right there, or take turns. But never expect that the guy should pay for it all, UNLESS he really insists, and I see that he really does want to pay for it all.
Gosh, this is always so tricky, isn't it.
:-)
Then after the first date, I split things pretty strictly down the middle unless I am dating someone who is making way more income than I am and picking restaurants or activities I could not afford otherwise. I also accompany that situation with a talk about it so that everyone is on board because I like for things like this to be on the table.
Dating is expensive and yes as a couple keep going out the financial expenditure should become more even. However you want to guard against getting involved with someone who is very stingy - that can speak to an emotional stinginess as well.