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Who Pays Sexfair & Airfare?
| Thu, 06-17-2004 - 5:37am |
Boyfriend asks girlfriend to accompany him to his neice's wedding out of state.
Boyfriend asks girlfriend to pay half the airfare and 30% of the hotel.
Why?
Because "he" would not need to stay at a hotel if "she" was not going because he could have stayed with a relative whose house is going to be full of out of town guests. He said he wanted her to be "comfortable" because the bathroom space at the house will be tough to share.
Girlfriend simply says: "I'll see you when you get back".
Boyfriend tells her THEN that he already bought the tickets to fly there for both of them because he "really" wants her to be with him for the weekend...and wants her to bring the fishnet stockings.
Boyfriend has a stinky habit of reminding her what he pays for.
Girlfriend feels obligated to go on the trip and she is a little pissed off.
Hellooooooooo!!!!????
Can somebody help me make some sense out of this.
What should she do?
Boyfriend asks girlfriend to pay half the airfare and 30% of the hotel.
Why?
Because "he" would not need to stay at a hotel if "she" was not going because he could have stayed with a relative whose house is going to be full of out of town guests. He said he wanted her to be "comfortable" because the bathroom space at the house will be tough to share.
Girlfriend simply says: "I'll see you when you get back".
Boyfriend tells her THEN that he already bought the tickets to fly there for both of them because he "really" wants her to be with him for the weekend...and wants her to bring the fishnet stockings.
Boyfriend has a stinky habit of reminding her what he pays for.
Girlfriend feels obligated to go on the trip and she is a little pissed off.
Hellooooooooo!!!!????
Can somebody help me make some sense out of this.
What should she do?

Girlfriend needs new boyfriend.
Basically, he does what he wants...and when he wants you along he "obligates" you by incurring financial expense which apparently he knows will in turn "obligate" you to pay him because of the standards you hold yourself to live up to.
Now...nobody would pay him for the tickets, etc. and "not go"......except in this case that is precisely what I'd do.
Because if my values said that if he incurred expense on my behalf BECAUSE I SAID I'D GO (if he incurred this expense ASSUMING I would play along - I would play nor pay)...I'd pay him whatever he asks.
But, i wouldn't be going on the trip because when I wrote him a check for the expenses I'd be telling him our relationship is over...and I'd mean it.
Erin
quickblade14@hotmail.com
If you were going out of state to YOUR families wedding and invited him, I would expect you to pay for everything as well. If he already paid for the plane tickets he better not expect you to pay 30% or whatever, I'd say no.
Girlfriend is dumping boyfriend. She's tired of his selfishness. Yanno what? Boyfriend of course mentioned to her that he had to do some "creative" money managing about the expenses. He isn't struggling with money by any means at all!!
This is the straw that breaks the camels back....finally. Girlfriend can't take it anymore.
Girlfriend told him to give the ticket to somebody else. He whined and almost literally cried because of course his family knows (exaggerate that word) how much he loves (exaggerate that one too) her.
Doing a Joan Rivers gag over here.
Whew. Girlfriend actually feels a sigh of relief.
You guys are great!!
Good luck with the next one.........