who is she to you?
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who is she to you?
| Fri, 08-25-2006 - 12:56am |
Okay my male friend introduced me to his friend back in June. We started taking interest into each other and have been bonding pretty good ever since. he recently got out of a relationship a few months back and was with this female for about a year and some change. He told me that she tried to control him so he had to let her go. To make a long story short we really do like each other but i also know that his ex still has those feelings for him. I asked him if he was still in love with her and he says he has love for her but he is not in love with her and there is a difference. I believe him when he tells me this. I'm sure you all have heard of myspace...well he asked me to set up his page to make it look nice so i got access to his username and password...while im setting up his page his ex girl sends him a note...I'm not going to lie i am nosey! so i read it and she says "hey i just want to tell you that i will always love you even if we are together or apart" I'm like o geesh what am i going to do? *sigh* I think the reason i am buggin is because i don't know if he would turn around and go back to her even though we have jus started liking each other and really establishing a real friendship so far. And i'm not going to lie i can be a jealous person and get intimadated by a female that i know is around. So far i am handling the situation just fine because i'm not the type to repeatdely ask him about his ex and their relationship i feel he can take it upon himself to tell me....But yup i am just really unsure about what to do about her...Or maybe there is really nothing i can do ya know? I mean she was here before me....

Myspace is all the rage, but I am sure it is the undoing of a lot of people.
If this lady is still in this man's life, he's still talking to her, taking her phone calls, having deep conversations....then he is still involved with her. You have to wait for people to be completely free of their exes before taking them on in a relationship. Otherwise there will be three people in a relationship, not 2.
What is your gut telling you? My bet that some bells are going off for you since if they weren't, you wouldn't be posting...
So what is your vibe saying?
Is this suspicion something you could learn to deal with? Has he talked to her and told her to stop contacting him?
He may be inviting the contact and if he is, you'll have to decide what to do based on that...