Who should say it first?
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Who should say it first?
| Wed, 05-19-2004 - 3:18pm |
I have been dating this wonderful man for three months. I am definately in love with him. By his actions I feel he loves me too. He has told me that he was falling for me but he has never said, I love you. I really want to tell him that I love him but my girlfriends tell me I should wait until he says it first. I don't know what to do. Should I tell him I love him or should I wait for him to tell me? Help!

So i guess i would say it in different words, such as; i love being with you, i feel we are a perfect match. Maybe a few other things.
Good luck
Carrie
If you really feel that way, why be afraid to say it? You should be able to honestly and openly discuss your feelings in your r/ship. The kicker is - don't have expectations! I would preface it by saying...You don't have to say anything right now, but I would like to share something with you. Or some other way to let him know that its NOT require of him to respond. He can say it when HE feels ready. You are just ready now and why not let him know that? So he knows where you stand?
Another idea is wait for the "perfect" moment. For instance, I took my bf on a Beautiful Vista Views Hike. At one peak, we had a 360 degree view of mountains, lakes, sunny sky with white fluffy clouds. We were so awestruck we stopped hiking and stood there for a moment, dazed. He started kissing me...and then pulled back and said, "I love you." He was overwhelmed with the moment and I was overwhelmed bc I didn't know what to say back. I just kissed him. He told me he was planning on saying it at his romantic birthday dinner planned for a few days later but it just felt SO RIGHT to say it then. And it was right. I told him "I love you" at his bday...I'm just the kind of person who needs to "absorb" information and who isn't spontaneous about feelings. Now he KNOWS that I love him and I wasn't just caving to the pressure of the moment.
Good Luck and let us know how it goes...!
I know it feels like true love and maybe it is but 3 months is NOT a long time - it's more infatuation stage, you don't know each other all that well yet.
I would enjoy the budding relationship but let him bring it to the next level.
Sherry