Who's Sleeping Around?
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| Wed, 05-30-2007 - 8:35pm |
I thought I'd share this article (further down) to change things up a bit. While I find it to be a bit ridiculous, it is nice to know that I have slept with men because I have enjoyed sharing my "warmth with others by sleeping with them" - I'm "friendly" per the article, not "antagonistic" or "cold".
The article is about promiscuity, a topic everyone loves to chat about. And I know everyone who has ever known me loves to chat about my sex life, and I'm sure the people you know love to chat about yours. The beautiful part about my sexual past is that I didn't always kiss and tell - many times. I suggest everyone do the same, because it may save your life one day, like it did mine. It's okay for your friends to think you have no love life...because their gossip will kill you later.
I don't understand why promiscuity is still a hot topic anymore. Yes, I have had two marriages and obviously dated these men for a while before marrying them, but the rest of the men were either encounters (which does include one night stands -shocker!!- but also includes "encounters"), trysts, bedbuddies, affairs or flings. Since I don't want to be in a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship...of course I'm going to be with more than one man a year, probably. Does that make me promiscuous?...maybe to some of you the answer is yes,...I really don't care. If I am going to spend my time and energy (and his) in a real "relationship", that person is going to have to be real special to me.
Who's sleeping around? Scientists can tell
Friendly folks, seemingly cold fish have the most sex partners, study says
People who are either extremely warm or extremely cold toward others tend to be promiscuous — and that people who are just moderately warm have the fewest sexual partners, researchers found.
By Melinda Wenner
Updated: 1:30 p.m. ET May 29, 2007
People who are socially dominant and either very friendly or very antagonistic tend to be more sexually promiscuous, according to a new study.
Friendly, warm people may enjoy , whereas antagonistic people may sleep around to avoid having a monogamous relationship. And having a dominant personality makes it easier to approach potential partners.
Past studies have suggested that people who are dominant tend to have more sexual partners than people who are submissive, but there has been little research into whether a person’s level of interpersonal warmth — the way in which they interact with others — affects their sexual actions.
So Patrick Markey, a psychologist at Villanova University, and his wife Charlotte Markey, a psychologist at Rutgers University, asked 210 adults to take a test to measure their interpersonal characteristics. They also asked the subjects to indicate with how many people they had engaged in certain sexual activities.
When they compared the subjects’ responses, they were able to confirm that dominance is a key trait of people who have a lot of sexual partners. They also found that people who are either extremely warm or extremely cold toward others tend to be promiscuous — and that people who are just moderately warm have the fewest sexual partners.
Antagonistic people might prefer to have multiple sex partners in order to avoid being in a monogamous relationship, out of fear of being poorly treated or being later rejected by a committed partner, the authors noted in their study, which is to be published in the Journal of Research in Personality.
Patrick Markey says it’s particularly interesting that warm people tend to be promiscuous, because in some ways, it conflicts with the moral thinking that promiscuity is bad.
While sleeping with multiple partners certainly carries with it certain health risks, “it could be that someone’s not doing it to achieve the most pleasure. Someone actually might be doing it as an expression of their warmth to other people,” he told LiveScience. “A warm person might hug lots of people; a warm person might kiss lots of people. Well, maybe a warm person might sleep with lots of people.”
© 2007 LiveScience.com
Edited 5/30/2007 9:12 pm ET by snafu2006
