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| Mon, 12-26-2005 - 5:36pm |
I met someone on Americansingles.com, probably my first no-no. He pursued me for weeks, we talked on the phone for hours and hours. He did and said everything he said he would and called me 4 or 5 times a night, we had not met yet. OK, I know I will hear about this, he even called me his princess..I even had his moms number if I needed her while he was on the road. He transports expensive cars for clients..hWe finally met and I thought things went great, so I thought, but things did not go well on his end, I can tell you that..need I say more, he had a problem and it was not me..nothing really happened when we met-he had a problem..Now, I feel a fool. He has a toothache, and yes I have seen the pictures that he sent to me so I know that he is telling the truth..said he had pain medication from the Dr., and that I did not want to talk to him right now, he was in an awful mood.The pictures look awful, honest, I am not that dumb. Now I am at the other end of the spectrum pursuing him like an idiot, which I have never done before. He has sent me pictures all weekend, his progress is worse as far as his dental problem. I got a call last night from him saying he was sorry, sorry for what?
It was my first holiday alone since my split, I have had walking pnemonia for three days and have been by myself. I never received a merry christmas or how are you feeling reply at all. It was all my part. Now I have had no replies, probably scared the hell out of him by pursuing him, which is not of my nature at all. He called last night and said he was sorry..was going to the dentist soon..I have seen the pictures..so I do have proof.
Now he has avoided any contact with me, yet can log on to the Americasingles website this morning, yet cannot even email a hello. It has been 4 days since we have spoken..and for the past month it was every day for hours, so yes I got spoiled and unfortunately, addicted, which is not healthy. His photo is better looking than he is and he said he was physically fit, and was not, bit I liked him for who I thought he was and did not base my opinion on what he looked like. I did everything to be supportive and now, nothing at all on his part. Is this what is supposed fto be the "upper hand" thing related to another article on this site?
I do not know what I expect as a reply on this..I just needed to vent.
I finally had enough and had left one more message on a voice mail I am tired of talking too, "I have had enough, you will not hear from me again-if I hear from you fine, if not, then fine." how was I supposed to feel.
How am I supposed to feel when someone pursues me relentlessly and then nothing at all? I feel like crap, used and hurt regardless. The man has been divorced 2 times..I am very mad that I wasted my time on someone who, I do not know. He came after me like a freight train for a month and I in turn did the same..I guess it goes one way.
My friends told me to let go and he is not worth it, I feel rejected. But my time, energy and money has been wasted..I also invested myself in a friendship, so I thought. I deleted his cell phone email as well as his regular email and deleted his number from my caller ID.
Internet relationships are too intense and overated. People get hurt.
Yes I did get my hopes up but tell me how could I not. I got tired of the games..I thought he was special and what we had was the same. I guess I was the special of the month so to speak.

You were vulnerable and the seduction of a cyber-pursuit is very real. Since it's not "real" - you're not seeing the pursuer clearly.