why am i going numb for no reason? help

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Registered: 08-31-2003
why am i going numb for no reason? help
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Thu, 04-22-2004 - 4:05pm
im so confused. help! been dating this guy for the last month and a half. everything has been going well, i was happy/excited. nice guy, funny, met through a friend. lately weve spent a lot of time together, but with group of friends, not a lot of one on one time. i feel like all of a sudden i dont know him like i should, im picking him apart and putting up this emotional wall. not feel as excited anymore but not for any specific reason. we are going out tonight, just the two of us, and i feel it may be good time to feel him out, get to know him more on a deeper level. why do i seem to either totally emotionally turn off with a guy i like or totally overanalyze, think is this guy the one, right for me?> i am 29 its only natural to sort of ask this. i was in a long term relationship, and took couple years to get over. and i really am, no looking back. i just feel i maybe dont know how to just be with someone, how to connect with someone new, etc. this is totally me, hes fine, as nothing is up or wrong or off. how can i stop being this way, get over this hurdle. i am going to try and have fun tonight, be my self take it slow, all of that stuff. im not looking for instant relat. or some huge commitment right away. is anyone else this way??? I need advice!!
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Registered: 07-02-2003
Thu, 04-22-2004 - 4:34pm
You need to just calm down and take your date very lightly. You could potentially scare him off, girl! Just take this guy week by week, and it will work out fine. Have the best time that you can when you are with him, no matter how long it lasts. If the negatives outweigh the positives, then it's time to analyze him and decide if you should stay with him or not.

Godd luck and have fun!