Why am I so impatient!
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Why am I so impatient!
| Tue, 10-10-2006 - 11:47am |
So, I've been on two dates with this guy: I really like him, and it seems he likes me too. There's been great conversation, great chemistry, all that. And after both dates he wanted to set up our next date. Only problem, for me at least, is that I'm so excited about this prospect that I get super antsy and I hate waiting the week, week plus between dates..I mean, I know I hardly know the guy, but my insecurity is if I WANT to see him quicker, and be constantly emailing, why doesn't HE? I obviously haven't pushed it, and just respond and then await his response.. He's never disappeared or anything, but he doesn't seem as EAGER as I am (between our second date and our third a week and a half will have passed). If it were up to me, I'd be seeing him every weekend, trying to figure out if we were a match. Why am I so impatient? How can I relax and just enjoy this? Also, how can I fight my insecurities about him not being as into me since he seems to have a more slow moving approach?

To lessen your insecurities and impatience why not date more guys at one time. Women, in general, tend to date one man and hang on to him e-mailing or calling constantly, and that is a turn off. Men need space and time to figure out if they want to go out again and get to know the woman. They date several women at one time so they can choose the one they like.
If you do the same, that way you won't be putting all your eggs in one basket and waiting by the phone or computer. It can be frustarting. It's possible that he's indeed dating more women and you come 2n ot 3rd in his list. Dating is not easy, but you can make it fun if you date more than one person. Once things progress to serious you can be exclusive with the one guy you want.
If you don't want to date more guys then take up on a hobbie to keep you busy. Getting out with friends or doing something you like will keep your mind and time busy and when you go home you can check your messages to see who called you.
veronica52379..
The 'standard' used to be...DON'T RUSH A WOMAN when it comes to a relationship (or getting her into bed). PG has noticed that this enetire philosophy has changed.
Many women have become the 'aggressor!' And believe it or not, Most (but not ALL) men HATE being rushed these days!
If a woman comes on too strong at the beginning and starts making demands and conditions in order to fulfill her own expectations...WE'LL DROP HER & HEAD IN THE OPPOSITE DIRECTION!
Of course, it's entirely possible that YOUR feelings for this man are a heckuva lot stronger than HIS? So if that's the case...consider yourself in the middle of "a gentle let-down!"
Pianoguy
IT's only been 2 dates- try to slow down. Take deep breaths - talk to friends, engage in activities you enjoy, even still try to meet other guys. And tell yourself you're just getting to know another person, not auditioning someone for the role of love of your life. The best thing is to live your life, not sit around waiting to hear from him.
good luck