Why am I still thinking about my ex?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-29-2004
Why am I still thinking about my ex?
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Wed, 12-08-2004 - 10:54am
Hi, I got engaged this summer to my boyfriend of four years and I have lately been thinking about my ex and how I felt like I should have given him a second chance because I broke up with him for no reason and we had fun together and he was my first love. I have talked to my ex off an on since we broke up. I wish that my ex and I could have tried again with our relationship because now we have been apart and had time to grow up. At the time I was dating him, I wasn't ready for a seriour relationship. I have dreams about him and think about him a lot. I emailed him a few times and told him how I'm feeling but he knows I'm engaged. He said that if I wasn't engaged he would date me. It too late to do anything now though. I don't want to mess up my relationship now though. I just wish I would have dated my ex again before I met my fiance. I just need to stop thinking about my ex.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-24-2004
Wed, 12-08-2004 - 11:06am
Have you had these thoughts and feelings for your ex for the last 4 years?????
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-29-2004
Wed, 12-08-2004 - 11:17am
I don't know. My ex and I have talked off and on and I thought why we never got back together but we were always in another relationship. I feel like we were competing against one another with relationships and I never wanted him to know that I wanted him back so I waited to see if he would make the first step dating me but that never happened so I found someone else but I still have feelings for him.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-24-2004
Wed, 12-08-2004 - 11:58am
There is a reason for you finding someone else. I think you got past the competitive stage and found someone with substance to fill a void.... "4 year relationship." I mean, I'm in love with a woman who left me because my divorce isn't finalized yet. I don't know if she will be there when it is done, but I know she is the love of my life and until she can look at me and tell me to move on because her love for me is gone there is no need for me to go "looking." You have met someone who you have decided to make a future with. Be honest with your S.O. and yourself.