why are guys so confusing?
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| Wed, 12-08-2004 - 12:34am |
So last night my BF and I were talking on the phone b/c he was out of town for work. He had had a long day and was still working at 10pm in his hotel room. I was excited because of stuff that had happened to me that day. So we were talking, and after a min or two he just seemed mad and like he didn't feel like talking. Then, I started telling him about how my car was messed up, and he just cut me off saying "he doesn't know too much about cars". So that just got on my nerves, so I said that i'd let him go and get back to his work. And we said bye.
Well I just knew that it wasn't a good way to end the conversation. So, I called him back and asked if everything ok (b/c maybe something was wrong with work or something else) and he said no. And he brought up the fact that he doesn't like that I get mad at him for little reasons, and how he often has to get the reason i'm mad out of me. He would rather me just be straight up. While I do see his point, I thought it was obvious that I was mad when we said bye and why i was mad (b/c he cut me off). So I told him that it was b/c of him cutting me off, which he didn't notice, but apologized anyways if it sounded like that. And I told him that I'd try to be more straight forward when things bother me. And then he said he'd call me tonight. - we usually talk every night he's out of town
However, tonight rolls around and no call. I usually would just call him if he hadn't called, but I figured I'd let him make the move so that it wouldn't be interrupting his work. So of course, now i'm going over the conversation we had a million times to see if I missed something that would make him purposely not call like he said he would. I can't think of anything. I'm just confused... any thoughts? help?

Hi,
What does your instinct tell you?
I'm asking cause this story rings a bell with something that happened to me a couple of months ago. I was in a relationship of four years and my now ex was acting very similar to yours...my instinct told me something was wrong, that perhaps he was cheating, I ignored it and I kept telling myself that it was my fault for not being more understanding etc....anyways, my instinct was dead on. He was being "short" on the phone cause there was another woman there with him.
I'm not saying that is happening in your case, but I'm telling you to listen to your intstinct. Even if he's being faithful...he is telling you indirectly that he's not happy with something in the relationship. I'm not sure how you usually handle things, but it does not matter. When you're in a relationship, both people involved should be there for the other...yes, you'll have your fights but ultimately you set the standard of how you want to be treated. When I read your post...it sounds like he has a lot of the control and you're making excuses for things you actually don't like. Maybe you know that the way he is treating you is not right...so stop and ask yourself is he treating me the way I want to be treated. If not, well take care of yourself and figure out what you want.
Men aren't really confusing...they are usually easy to read. If he wants something, he'll get it. And if something is bothering him, he'll tell you. So you know the guy best, so if he really was being sincere...take it as that. If he didn't call you...maybe he was busy with work. But if you suspect him of cheating...trust your instinct.
Ultimately, Don't Nag a guy. And remember don't take things too personally. Take care of yourself. Try not to think of him all day that it keeps you from your own life...it's not worth it.
All men love a woman who stands her own ground and won't take mistreatment from anyone!