why bother saying this?

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Registered: 10-22-2005
why bother saying this?
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Sun, 08-06-2006 - 4:48pm
The other day, I've been talking online to this guy I've been kind of seeing. It's been almost a year since we met. We don't see each other often but chat online quite a bit. It's been a sexual thing we had only. He tells me that he met a girl from a dating site but they didn't click because she was all into image and didn't like his car and there might've been more to it but that's all he told me. He then said and I quote, "I was a great person and he hasn't even told me how great I am". Ok, I'm confused. Is he telling me this now because we're not going to see each other again, just chat? We have chatted online since then and we get along great. Sexually, I'm not what he wants since I'm inexperienced since he was my first so maybe that's what he's getting at. But still, why did he have to say what he did. He still doesn't want to do anything with me as in going out and doing something and he's always on the dating site again. I asked him the next day why he said I was great and he just asked if he should've said I was bad and laughed about it. So I don't know what to think.
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Registered: 07-23-2006
Sun, 08-06-2006 - 5:01pm
Could it be that he sees you as just a friend (with benefits)? Perhaps you've been a great listener and sympathized with him on occasions whenever he's told you about his troubles with relationships or anything at all. And that you just might be reading a little more than is there because you are hoping there is? I say continue to chat with him, it seems you two feel comfortable at least talking with each other, and just see what happens from there.
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Registered: 10-22-2005
Sun, 08-06-2006 - 5:10pm
Thanks for your reply. I agree with you on that I'm reading too much into it. I've been doing my best not to do that but in the back of my mind, there's a little voice that keeps telling me that there could be more to this and he's just taking him time. It has been almost a year now though..lol I'd be happy to be friends with him but I will miss the sexual part too. If only he wanted to do more things that friends do, that's the thing. Another thing is that his family is more upper class than mine is. He's probably been brought up to think that, I don't know. I personally don't look at people as different classes. Everyone is equal in my eyes. I'm far from being poor or anything like that but we're not quite where his family is. I'm not too happy about that, if that's how he looks at things but anyway...not much I can do about it.


Edited 8/6/2006 5:13 pm ET by frustrated_12