Why can't he say "I love you"
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Why can't he say "I love you"
| Mon, 05-24-2004 - 8:30pm |
Hello all,
I really don't know where to find answers anymore, I have been dating this wonderful guy, smart as they come, generous, fun, etc. We spend a lot of time together and get along very well, he has introduced to his family and friends and has done several nice things for me. We've done everything you think a perfect couple can do, however it's been a year and half since we started dating, a year that became exclusive and he has not tell me he loves me yet. Actually he did say it once last november after two weeks of being apart, but when I asked what he say, just to hear it again, he would not say it again, he muttered something else, but believe me I know what I heard.
Anyway sometime after that incident I told him I loved him, expecting a "I love you" in return (what an idiot, what was I thinking!! I know), but got a hugh in return, what does that mean?? Any guys out there?? After that I said it 2 or 3 more times, what did I hear back? the firt time: "I like spending time with you". (Are you laughing at me yet?) and the last time was about 3 weeks ago we had been working very hard in a project, and were stressed and fustrated, I just hughed him and said I love you, and well yeah, he said I love you too, but I just stood there and said nothing, what was wrong there? I guess I did not consider that statement valid under those circumstances.
Anyway a few days ago I asked him what did he feel for me, he said he obviously had feelings for me, and that he had showed me how much he cared by spending so much time with me, introducing me to his family and friends, helping me on that big project, taking me to trips, etc. He also said that he knew he wasn't good at expressing his feelings verbally but that I should be able to make assumptions based on these actions. Can you please share some thoughts
Thanks
Edited 5/24/2004 8:42 pm ET ET by andean_angel
I really don't know where to find answers anymore, I have been dating this wonderful guy, smart as they come, generous, fun, etc. We spend a lot of time together and get along very well, he has introduced to his family and friends and has done several nice things for me. We've done everything you think a perfect couple can do, however it's been a year and half since we started dating, a year that became exclusive and he has not tell me he loves me yet. Actually he did say it once last november after two weeks of being apart, but when I asked what he say, just to hear it again, he would not say it again, he muttered something else, but believe me I know what I heard.
Anyway sometime after that incident I told him I loved him, expecting a "I love you" in return (what an idiot, what was I thinking!! I know), but got a hugh in return, what does that mean?? Any guys out there?? After that I said it 2 or 3 more times, what did I hear back? the firt time: "I like spending time with you". (Are you laughing at me yet?) and the last time was about 3 weeks ago we had been working very hard in a project, and were stressed and fustrated, I just hughed him and said I love you, and well yeah, he said I love you too, but I just stood there and said nothing, what was wrong there? I guess I did not consider that statement valid under those circumstances.
Anyway a few days ago I asked him what did he feel for me, he said he obviously had feelings for me, and that he had showed me how much he cared by spending so much time with me, introducing me to his family and friends, helping me on that big project, taking me to trips, etc. He also said that he knew he wasn't good at expressing his feelings verbally but that I should be able to make assumptions based on these actions. Can you please share some thoughts
Thanks
Edited 5/24/2004 8:42 pm ET ET by andean_angel

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