Why can't I get a date?
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Why can't I get a date?
| Thu, 07-15-2004 - 10:13am |
I'm 5 days short of my 23rd birthday. Here's the deal, I havent had a steady boyfriend since high school. I haven't seriously dated anyone in 3 years and I havent had sex in 2. I am no Jennifer Lopez, but I'm not ugly either. I have a job that pays decently and I'm overall an agreeable person. I'm not really the partying type but I'm not a bore either. I have made a couple attempts at asking guys out on dates and I've been rejected. The one guy that agreed on it ended up wanting to be just friends before the boring date was over. I know there has to be something going on but I just can't figure out what. I'd like to get my social life in track and start dating again but I just can't seem to do either. I'd like to hear your opinions. I know there's dry spells, but mine has been way too long and I'm feeling way too lonely for my own good!
Juneisy

I totally agree with the saying: you'll find what you're looking for when you stop looking.
Maybe you're just so focused on finding someone that it's overwhelming you. Forget about dating for awhile and focus on your friends and your family. You have to be comfortable with yourself and know yourself before you are involved with anyone. The more confidence you have in yourself the more it shows.
You also want to make sure that you are not coming across to men as desparately seeking something, anything. Guys pick up on that really quick, heck, everyone does. So just step back if you find yourself too eager.
Quick and easy- you want to make friends. Go out into the world with THAT intention and you may be surprised at what happens. Being focused on only finding a date may make you miss some really great people out there.
Well first of all Happy Birthday!! (I think we share the same birthday on July 20th I'll be a remarkable 25)
You should look forward to 23 though- it was a great year!
Now onto the dating problem. If you want to find a date just get out there and start living your life the best possible way you can and the men will start falling all over themselves to be a part of it.
Change things up- join a gym, take an art or dance class after work, have drinks with friends, go camping, go to art show at your local museum, do something once a week that you have never done before- I can't think of anything more appealing than a person who enjoys their life to the fullest.
The moral is, focus on yourself and eventually the people you encounter will be naturally drawn to your energy.