Why can't I move on after 9 yrs?????????

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Registered: 11-04-2004
Why can't I move on after 9 yrs?????????
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Tue, 11-16-2004 - 3:31pm

9 yrs ago I met a young man on a business tip. It was love at first sight. I'm 13yrs older than this young man. He had the most beautiful smile I had ever seen. I was doing rather well an my own. I've never needed a man to take care of me. I raised 2 children by myself. Financially responsible for myself. When we met he was 23 I was 37. Following our business transaction He called me and wanted to return and spend some time with me. Needless to say I was tickled that he would have an interest in me, and I agreed. It ended up being a night out of this world. We both seemed to have been taken by each others charm and romance. Before long he asked me if he could move in. Again I agreed we've been together off and on everysince. He had left on a number of occasions only to come back after seeing the grass wasn't as green else where as he had thought. I took very good care of this individual. Each time he would leave it was when things were bad either finacially or some other delimma. Each time I would take him back because I truly LOVED him. This last time we seperated I was 5 mos pregnant and finances were in an upheavel. I lost my job after many yrs, my home and my vehicle. Still I managed to survive without his help. Oh by the way drugs played a big role in this also. I still love him and probally always will but I just cant allow him back in life to be hurt again. Already he's been calling me trying to get to see me. My heart says yes but my mind says NO!!!!!!!What are the chances that he ever really cared ? Whats you views?

Edited 11/16/2004 4:16 pm ET ET by sundance5959




Edited 11/16/2004 4:35 pm ET ET by sundance5959
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Registered: 06-20-2004
Wed, 11-17-2004 - 9:41am

Sorry if you can't make things work then it probably will never work. He cared about you in his own way but that isn't enough to sustain a lasting relationship.

Sometimes love isn't enough.

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Registered: 11-04-2004
Wed, 11-17-2004 - 10:34am
Thank you sweet karma for your reply.
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Registered: 05-22-2003
Wed, 11-17-2004 - 12:51pm
For what you wrote, it sounds like you had his baby? or was it someone else's in that case has he been a father to the child?
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Registered: 11-04-2004
Wed, 11-17-2004 - 2:36pm
I went into early labor and the baby didn't survive due to medical complications. Needless to say it was quite an emotional time as im 40+. I can't beleive that some one can be just that uncaring about someone after 9 years. Was I Just A Dam Fool all those years?
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Registered: 07-24-2003
Fri, 11-19-2004 - 1:32pm
Hello sundance, welcome to the board!

 
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Registered: 11-03-2004
Fri, 11-19-2004 - 4:34pm
I'm sorry to say this, but I don't think he loved you. He may have loved being with you, but he didn't love you. If he had, he would have stayed. He would have helped out. Just ask yourself what you would do for him. Do we abandon the ones we love when they most need us? No.
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Registered: 11-04-2004
Mon, 11-22-2004 - 10:39am
Jennyjump04, First of all your responding to the wrong person. Second of all I know he loves me. Some people dont know how to show love..Bottom Line I had a wonderful Sunday Evening with him. No regrets!!!!!!