Why cant we just be friends...dam
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Why cant we just be friends...dam
| Tue, 08-17-2004 - 1:49am |
How do i do it? Why cant me and some women just be friends, not lovers. Why cant they accept to just be my friend than lover. Its driving me crazy. I can invite 1 or 2 too my place sometimes to watch a movie and have a few drinks. One of them can be on the love seat, while im on the sofa. She then wants to lay down next to me with her head on my shoulder or my lap. I dont want to be rude so i let it be, but i dont touch them or anything in return. I just want to be friends
I have to call them to hang out. They dont call me that much anymore when i bring up the friendship. When i do call 1, 2 or a few more to go hang out, they assume that i want to bed them........so they jump to this conclusion. When they find out, they get all crazy with me and throw a fit. I just wanted to HANG OUT!!!!!!!!!
Edited 8/17/2004 2:02 am ET ET by alpha_male

One thing I can say, if you really only wanna be friends, make them keep to their own seat and not use you as a seat. 'Just friends' don't touch like that, so don't let 'em touch.
Gonna answer your other post now...
wow... I guess I'm not alone..... :)
I have the same problem with men I want to
"just" be friends with.
you sound to me like a man that is either "very"
attractive, sweet, strong, sexy and
Very "easy" to be comfortable with...... so "emotionally"
a woman or the women you know, are attracted to you on
a much open and stronger level, and "want" to have
You as a "mate" or "comfortable sex" partner.........
if most your conversations "lead" or ride on a view of
"relationships" that implies sexual closeness or being
"a couple" .... it CAN give the impression of "YOU"
Wanting the "SAME" thing they want.
your attraction to them as good looking "friends"
"sexy ladies"and good company, Can also mean to them,
that you want them as a partner, when you call.
a single man that is JUST dating and having fun with
SINGLE women that want more
Should stay "away" from women that (he knows)
don't just want to hang out.
They simply don't see you as a hang out "Buddy".
I have a male friend that would jump
at the opportunity to bed me,
if I just said "okay"... :)
BUT... I don't "want" to,
"I" want to keep him as a friend.... I'm annoyed
when he keeps suggesting that we do it everytime
i call to spend some time with him, and he's Confused
when i "call," and all I want to do is sit and
watch a movie with him.....
no matter how much i laugh it off
that he's just horny, and needs to get out more.
He still want me..... so coming out and flat out
telling him "it will never happen"
Risks me loosing him as my "friend"
and hurting his fillings.
but ... something's JUST must be said and
made firm so no one gets hurt In the
long run...try as gently as you can
to make this CLEAR...And explain how
much you value them and "want"
to hold on to a FRIENDSHIP.
I hope this helps...... :)
Take care.
I personally think that you're wanting to hang out with hot babes -and you're a hottie yourself. And they throw themselves at you - you think they want a relationship. They really just want sex...when they can't get sex, they move on.
And there is nothing in common between you all as a group. Acquaintences are different than "frriends".
Acquainttences become friends with shared interests, perceptions, goals, and beliefs.
Have you got any friends.....or are all these people you meet when you hang out at bars, etc.
Erin
quickblade14@hotmail.com
However, you need to realize that not every woman you meet will be ok with just being friends with you. This is something you just need to accept and deal with.
Sheri
Each time you write about the same issue it's reading about how you like to tease women.
My question here is: why are you so adamant to find female friends?
I dont tease them. I like women friends because for some reason, i like the drama...LOL
They tell me there problems, but most of the time i tell them i dont wanna hear it. I dont do bars, so meet women at the supermarket, starbucks, clubs ( dont do bars ) and the gym. I do not talk about sex with these women, but they do all the time with me, but i quickly change the subject but they seem to not understand?