Why do guys do this?
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Why do guys do this?
| Thu, 09-16-2004 - 4:16pm |
I went on a date with this guy I met online about a week ago and everything went great. He was a great guy, really down to earth and didn't seem like a jerk. He complimented me on the date as well as on the phone when we chatted before we met.
I e-mailed him to let him know that I had a great time on the date and that maybe we could get together sometime. He wrote back that he had a great time and that we should get together this weekend. I wrote back suggesting when we could get together on Sunday and now he said that he has to get back to me tomorrow or Sat. to let me definitely know about Sunday. What't that about? He suggested it, not me.
I e-mailed him to let him know that I had a great time on the date and that maybe we could get together sometime. He wrote back that he had a great time and that we should get together this weekend. I wrote back suggesting when we could get together on Sunday and now he said that he has to get back to me tomorrow or Sat. to let me definitely know about Sunday. What't that about? He suggested it, not me.
Before we met we spoke about 3-4 times. He would call (and so would I) every other day or every two days. I'm feeling that he might not really be interested and just can't come out and tell me. But then why tell me lets get together this weekend and now he can't give me the time of day.
I would rather a guy tell me that he's not interested to my face than make me think that he is interested and lead me on.
Why do guys do this?
I would appreciate a man's thoughts on this too. Thanks.
Sorry it's a little long but I'm venting too.

Alison
Sean
He suggested the weekend, you suggested a definite day. Maybe he had plans with family, friends, etc. and just needed to make sure he would be open. Maybe he didn't want to seem over eager by saying "Sunday?...OH YES!!"
This will be a second date so just relax and see if he calls. I am sure he will or he wouldn't have told you he would get back with you. Don't scare him away by having too many expectations right now.
I know we all get excited when a date goes well and there is an open door for the next one. I am totally guilty of that. I get anxious and once locked my keys in the car while it was running. Thank goodness I had my spare in my purse. However, I didn't realize it until I came out of the store and was heading off to meet him.
Just breathe and see if he calls. If he doesn't call, he is a coward for stringing you along. ;) Good luck!
Just because that's what they say, it doesn't always mean that's what they'll do.
Elle