Why do guys do this?
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| Sun, 08-08-2004 - 7:57pm |
Then we talk on IM and he says to me all the things I also was thinking: empathy, a positive connection, etc, and he asks me out again. We go out and again it was very good, the empathy was better, I felt very good. Again he said he felt the same. We talked online and he says he's really looking to have a relationship, doesn't want to hang around, and probably if we continue dating and this romantic empathy continues, we can try it. We meet again, for the third time, wonderful again. We seem more attached to each other, although not even a kiss happened. We talk on IM and shows very interest in me. I feel I'm starting to have feelings for him, nothing special, just a crush.
But now that's the one thing I don't understand. That third date it was me who ask him to go out, I think now should be him. We continue talking on IM and he continues to show very interest in me. Thing is, it's about 2 weeks since the last one and he never asked me again..... we talk online, he say nice things, shows very interest, but don't ask me out. I don't understand this, shouldn't we date and meet in order to get to know each other well? It seems there's happening a gap time here since the last time we saw each other, and I think gap times in such an earlier stage are just a turn off!!! Because you really have interest in that person, and you start feeling that gap isn't right.
He shows interest online, but never asked me out again. He's he really interested? I could understand if we had sex and then he back off (so many men do it), but we didn't even kissed yet! Does he have another woman in his life?
I'm starting losing interest and feeling despised. Is it too much to ask him in IM if his interest for me is real? We only go out on 3 dates, can I ask him this? What to do?

At this point you should just put it to him bluntly and ask him. What have you got to lose?
Tom
I completely agree with Tom. I thought the same thing even before I read his response to you.... you have nothing to lose so ask him point blank. Worst case is he will say he is not that interested and so you move on. ;)