why do guys like hard to get girls!?

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Registered: 04-25-2003
why do guys like hard to get girls!?
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Fri, 04-23-2004 - 2:56pm
i was dating a guy on and off for about 5 months. i really liked him, and at first he seemed like he really liked me. then i started to feel like maybe he was just in it for the sex, and he was somewhat of a commitment phobe. it seems like he doesnt really like to settle down with one person because he's afraid he will find someone better. so, i decided to back off a bit (since i am VERY bsuy anyway). as soon as i did this, he started to call me, IM, and or text me EVERYDAY! he has asked me to hang out every night for over a month and i have said no (mostly due to my busy schedule...i dont have time to include people in my life who are going to lead me nowhere!). i told him i may be willing to see him when im done for the semester, which is in a few weeks. he said he would wait! how can a guy go from barely interested to this!? this seems to rule out my thoughts on him being with me just for sex....what are your opinions on this??!! guys are so strange!!
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Fri, 04-23-2004 - 3:08pm
Not settling for anyone b/c you think you'll find better is not called being a commitment phobe. It's called holding out for what you're looking for. It's called not settling on less than you want and need and think you deserve. IMO there is not a thing wrong with that. It's the only way you're going to find someone who's right for you and the only way you won't look back later and wonder if you could have found better. Not all guys behave in the manner you described. And who knows why this one is behaving this way? Personally I don't think it's a sign of anything in particular other than maybe he's mixed up or very inconsistent. Either way, it wouldn't make me feel very good if someone acted like they were losing interest in me....no matter if they bounced back or not. I'd rather find someone who was consistently interested in me and in fact, whose interest grew deeper and stronger over time, not wavered or fizzled out or was up and down. But that's just me.
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Registered: 12-23-2003
Fri, 04-23-2004 - 4:52pm

Again, I agree with Boobeetrap,

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