Why do I feel this way when I shouldn't
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| Tue, 09-05-2006 - 12:19am |
Here is a history of my dilemna...
Seven months ago, I went on a great blind date with G (He saw me online and his friend got us together). I guess maybe he got 'not interested' vibes from me because when he kissed me I got nervous (It took me by surprise and I thought it was too soon). At the end of the date he said he would call me during the week. I called him at the end of the week because I hadn't heard from him. We chatted and he said he would call in a couple of days.... He didn't call. But his friend came online and told me G lost my phone number and needed my number again.... :S
So, G calls me a month later and we go on a date. I thought he wasn't too interested in me so I didn't expect anything more. But at the end of the week he calls me very late at night to go out! I said no to the last minute, late night date, and we rescheduled for the following weekend. The following weekend comes around and I haven't heard from G. But the next day I saw a message from him on my machine! I had missed his call! So I called him right away to see if he was free that night. He said he was busy and would call me later... that was seven months ago.
Now, after seven months, G calls me out of the blue as if nothing happened. He only tells me he was out of town for 2 months. He asks me out to dinner for the following Friday, and I said yes (stupid me). Friday comes around and I still haven't heard from him. At 10pm he calls to go out! He even forgot my name... I basically told him off.
Why do I still feel rotten... :(

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You feel rotten because you noticed that G was a loser the first time he didn't call when he said he would. Then you gave this toad multiple chances to turn into Prince Charming. It didn't happen.
Next time, no second chances and you will be able to see people for who they are.
Because it's never fun when someone treats us badly - but this is all about him, not you. It will only become about you if you get caught up and actually start seeing this louse if he calls again.
Move on - to people who deserve you.
....because he didn't treat you very well...
What a jerk!
It is totally normal to feel this way. No one wants to be treated like crap especially by someone who they thought was nice and good but was a different person all together.
I have noticed recently that i have been doing something very similar. If i am rejected by a guy instead of saying to myself "it is his loss, he is an idiot and doesn't know a good thing when he sees it. There is something wrong with him" i say "what is wrong with me that i am not good enough for him? What did I do wrong? Why doesn't he like me?"
It's a good thing you found out he was a jerkoff though.
<< Why do I still feel rotten... :( >>
Because, even though he was flashing a big "L" on his forehead, you gave him a chance anyway (actually, several chances!) You're not upset with G. You're upset with yourself for giving the big LOSER a shot when you know that you deserve better.
Next time, take any and all FLAKES at face value and say "next!"
I was wondering... Since he reappeared after so many months out of the blue, was I his backup plan? Did he just maybe breakup with someone and he was feeling lonely?
If he really was interested in me he wouldn't act so flaky right? If he really liked me, he would not be calling so late last minute, right? He would've explained his absence, right?
Also, do you think he will reappear again?
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