Why do I feel this way when I shouldn't
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| Tue, 09-05-2006 - 12:19am |
Here is a history of my dilemna...
Seven months ago, I went on a great blind date with G (He saw me online and his friend got us together). I guess maybe he got 'not interested' vibes from me because when he kissed me I got nervous (It took me by surprise and I thought it was too soon). At the end of the date he said he would call me during the week. I called him at the end of the week because I hadn't heard from him. We chatted and he said he would call in a couple of days.... He didn't call. But his friend came online and told me G lost my phone number and needed my number again.... :S
So, G calls me a month later and we go on a date. I thought he wasn't too interested in me so I didn't expect anything more. But at the end of the week he calls me very late at night to go out! I said no to the last minute, late night date, and we rescheduled for the following weekend. The following weekend comes around and I haven't heard from G. But the next day I saw a message from him on my machine! I had missed his call! So I called him right away to see if he was free that night. He said he was busy and would call me later... that was seven months ago.
Now, after seven months, G calls me out of the blue as if nothing happened. He only tells me he was out of town for 2 months. He asks me out to dinner for the following Friday, and I said yes (stupid me). Friday comes around and I still haven't heard from him. At 10pm he calls to go out! He even forgot my name... I basically told him off.
Why do I still feel rotten... :(

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Honestly, WHY he behaved like a jerk is less important than the fact that he DID behave like a jerk.
Yes, he probably will try again. Block him from emailing you and change his name and number in your phone to something like "Jerk alert!" so you won't be tempted to answer if he does call you again.
Sheri
If he shows up again, after you told him off, he is an even bigger weirdo than you thought!
But let me say that this guy sounds like one of those men who like to play with women they meet online. It's something I can't explain... except that they are sometimes men who already have girlfriends or wives. They get their kicks and boost their egos by talking online and on the phone with hopeful, single women. They can be charming, complimentary and they beg to see you. Then they just disappear or come up with excuses when it's time to actually time to meet or go out on a date with you.
The first time a guy flakes out on you this way, he should be HISTORY. Do not give a second chance to that kind of guy... unless he IMMEDIATELY calls you to explain what happened and he seems very sincere about wanting another shot.
I'm sorry you had that experience, but you're right... this bum was a waste of energy. NEXT! Good luck.
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