Why Do I . . . .

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Registered: 08-29-2003
Why Do I . . . .
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Fri, 05-28-2004 - 2:05pm
keep dreaming about my Ex? We broke up back in March and we tried to reconcile in April but things still wasn't working. And if you remember, this is the same Ex that is extremely similar to this guy Mike I am dating now. These two are too similar to pass off as a coincidence and I swear that they are related somehow. Oh by the way, Mike called me Wednesday night.

I've been very depressed since the break up (I was the dumper) but I have been getting stronger and stronger each day. I used to dream about the Ex alot back in March and think about him all the time but as I got stronger the dreams went away and the thoughts subsided. I've also dated other men since the breakup and that has helped somewhat.

So now, two months later, the dreams have returned. I've dreamt about my Ex on Wednesday night and Thursday night. On Wednesday night, I dreamt that the Ex and I were making passionate love like we used to do. And Thursday afternoon was the first time in weeks that I had the *urge* to call my Ex but I resisted the need to call him.

Thursday night's dream consisted of a previous conversation I had with my Ex in which he told me all about his family history, his native country, his personal experiences here in the US, etc. It was a great history lesson indeed. But this time we were speaking face-to-face (he orginally told me these things during several telephone conversations). It was as if he was actually speaking to me in my dreams last night.

I just wanted to get this off my chest so to speak and figure out what does all of this mean. Your comments and thoughts are greatly appreciated.

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Registered: 08-29-2003
Sat, 05-29-2004 - 3:47pm
"But if you honestly want to get back to your "normal self"---make some changes in your future...while learning from the unfortunate situations in your past."

Thank's Pianoguy for your words of wisdom . . . . I'll definitely keep this in mind.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 05-30-2004 - 12:40pm
Hi Terry!

A song called "SLEEP DEEPER" might be an interesting challenge. I suppose almost anybody could get an odd reaction out of eating the wrong food prior to bedtime? And I guess if we've had a stressful day or week, a lot of interesting thoughts (sexual and otherwise) could pop into our subconscious?

You probably won't believe this, Terry...but Pianoguy actually wrote a song called "SLEEP SOON!"

I composed the music and lyrics in 1997. A woman I had known and dated for quite a while bought a house together...and suddenly...she became "THE GIRL FROM HELL!" What was okay while we were dating became NOT OKAY! *S* hated everything including my dog, one of my children, some of my hobbies and the music I listened to (among other things). Needless to say, our love for each other went sour after 3 years. .

The song I wrote (and copyrighted) deals with a man (not me) who is ready to take his own life...because the woman he loved more than anyone or anything...cheated on him with an EX-Husband! She was away for the weekend 'doing the nasty' while the man kept looking out the bedroom window with the hope she'd return? Since it wasn't his intention to bother anybody else with the sadness of the situation, the man drafted one last letter to his girlfriend...before he went into a...err..."permanent state of slumber!"

I honestly think the tune is nice (and have played it publicly), but I've kept the lyrics out of circulation. Some of the "inner hurt" is still present...which makes singing the song for an audience (or even close friends) very difficult for me.

Pianoguy

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