why do men get back with mean women?

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Registered: 11-26-2005
why do men get back with mean women?
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Mon, 12-26-2005 - 3:21pm
Too make a long story short. I was seeing a guy who had just gotten over a short relationship 3 months before we started dating. He told me all these things about how mean she was to him and how she always picked fights. He even let me in on a few of the comments and they were awful. He had told me that they wanted completely different things in the fiture and had way too many different views that it wasn't worth continuing.
When we started dating we both found out that we had so much in common, especially about what we wanted in the future. He had also said "that we were alot more alike then he had thought." Well my issue is he went back to his X girlfriend. He told me that they were talking again so I just called it quits, no since getting attached to him if he was talking to her again. Why is it that a guy goes back to a girl that is so mean and so different from him? Please give me some insight because I am so confused.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Mon, 12-26-2005 - 6:25pm
Women go back to mean men too all the time.
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Registered: 04-19-2004
Mon, 12-26-2005 - 7:34pm
Because it's comfortable, it's easier to go back to someone who they know how they are going to act then to get to know someone new and their attitudes and quirks. Just know that he did you a favor, he's not mature enough to have a relationship with.
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Registered: 12-23-2003
Mon, 12-26-2005 - 8:46pm

There's a variation on this question... why do men seem to prefer B's?


Well, I'm not a man.

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Tue, 12-27-2005 - 9:26am
Perhaps she wasn't so mean and rarely picked fights, but he wanted some sympathy from you. He obviously enjoyed her company because he is back with her.
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Registered: 11-24-2004
Tue, 12-27-2005 - 12:30pm
Some guys like a challenge. She is high maintenance and some guys like that. When everything is "too easy" to maintain, such as having similar temperaments and a lot of things in common, a guy gets too comfortable and bored. Some guys are always pursuing, but when they feel they really have someone's interest, they let them go and start pursuing again. A volatile relationship is a giant cat and mouse game for him. But don't despair, not every guy is like this. There are plenty of guys who would like to settle down with someone who's nice that they have plenty in common with.

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