Why do people do this?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-04-2004
Why do people do this?
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Fri, 04-09-2004 - 4:03pm
I have a question about those women who have taken back a significant other that has cheated. Why? My friend is getting married, and continually cheats on his fiance. I mean like with more than 50 women that I know of. His wedding is less than six weeks away, and he's still doing it. Some are strictly physical, and others are emotional She finds out an stays. He says that she is just that much in love. He says she's strong. Because they get through it. I asked him why and he said he cannot answer that. But then he said it was because she stands by him and puts up with his crap. Why would a girl do that? Why would anyone do that? I don't get it. He's told me that he doesnt' love her the way he should to marry her, but I think this is his way of thanking her. He says that when he takes those vows, he will be with her and only her. Shouldn't he be practicing now, or sometime during the 5 year relationship they've had? I mean, he's even done it with her family members. Explain to me what is going on in this girls head, cause I don't get it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 04-10-2004 - 3:06am
because I LOVVVVVVE HIM!........ is the answer....

Women that do this always have this answer.

I know it's crazy and I know it's wrong, but both the man and

woman that cheat and have someone "SOLID" at home

will "never" stop after or during marriage..... when you know

you'll have money in the bank.... You can spend your time

at the mall every time (if you know what i mean).... :)

Like president Clinton's wife Hillary... she "KNEW" he was

a rat.... and "would" go get him some cheese.....

And what did she do.. Stand by her man!

There are many cases.. And you are not alone...

I have 4 friends that is in this situation.. and there's no

use trying to help or save them..... I have "learn" :)

my own sister has yet to marry the man she's lived with

for 10yrs. and knows his "other" women by name!

and says it's the women he cheats with that's bad and stupid!

Most men like this feel they are "entitle" to go out and

have their way.. even when they'er getting or are married!

There is no getting through a woman that stays...

so let what is happening, happen.... There "is" a pay off for them!

take care