Why do some men brag about sex?

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Registered: 11-26-2005
Why do some men brag about sex?
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Sun, 01-01-2006 - 5:45pm

First of all Happy New Year to you all.

I used to date this guy and he was nothing but respectful and nice when we dated.
Anyways, we ended things a few months ago and I am over him completely, he just wasn't for me. We have a mutual group of friends so we have remained civil to one another.
Since we have split up he constantly brings up sleeping with other women, not to me but to my friends. He brings this up to my close friends that are obviously going to say something to me. They will be talking about a random topic (nothing to do with women or girls) and out of nowhere he will be like "Yeah I recently slept with a girl like that." Who cares! Why does he keep bringing this up he just looks stupid? Is he trying to make me jealous or is he really that insecure that he wants to look cool? Please give me some insight into this strange male behavior.

I've always been told that men that talk about it alot aren't really getting it. Is there any truth behind that.

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Registered: 01-10-2004
Mon, 01-02-2006 - 1:07pm
To me he is just trying to make you jealous through your friends. It is not just male behavior but some people try to mask the pain through this .
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 01-04-2006 - 10:11am
You are certainly riled up about it...I think the interesting thing here is WHY do your friends tell you this crap? Do they enjoy watching your confusion? You don't need to hear this stuff, tell them to stop telling you about it since it bugs you.
I think the answer to your question is that some men are insecure. They like to have people think of them as a 'player'.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sun, 01-08-2006 - 8:43pm
Defniitely sounds like insecurity and ego issues. If he was getting it, wouldn't have anything to prove!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 01-09-2006 - 7:29am

beachy81...

Sometimes a man will "network himself" around others (of both sexes) with the hope that an eager, nubile female (who happens to be listening to the conversation) will follow him home and shed off her clothes...just out of curiosity to see if the man can..."measure up to her expectations?"

Pianoguy

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Thu, 01-26-2006 - 1:16pm
If he's telling your friends, a) there's a good chance that he's making it all up, and b) is saying it to try to make you jealous. Other than that, though, we brag among ourselves because getting sex for us is like winning the lottery. It's one of the most difficult things for us to do in life, and it's worth bragging about when we do.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 01-26-2006 - 1:22pm
Yes his ego is obviously very malnourished.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 01-26-2006 - 7:45pm

It could be he's trying to make you jealous.

Men, at least some of them, think they have to brag how much sex they got to make themselves look good. When men get together, they like to claim how good they are with the ladies. Even young boys in their teens, brag about how they were able to bag a girl.

At any rate, don't let him get to you. If you are broken up, you and he are past history. Don't allow him to get to you.