Why do they say "call you later" & dont?
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Why do they say "call you later" & dont?
| Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:41pm |
Well, I posted earlier this week about a guy that I have liked for years. He agreed to help me collect some sticks and rocks for a group project I have next week at school. He told me to call him on Thursday (today). Well, I called today and when I asked him if he is still able to help me for a little bit, the phone "mysteriously" died. He never called back so I called him and I said is everything ok? and he said yeah, I can help you. Right now I am waiting for my mom, she needs some help moving things and then I am going to get my hair cut and I will call you as soon as I am done with all of that. I said ok. Well, it is dark now. OBVIOUSLY, he knows it is too late and I KNEW he was going to do that as soon as he said I will call you later (it has happened to me too many times before with other men). I am pretty pissed because if he just would have made up an excuse or a lie, then I could have figured out a way to go out and do it by myself, or called someone else, but now I have wasted a whole day waiting on him for no reason and I STILL NEED HELP! What I want to know is what should I do? Part of me wants to call him and tell him he is an a$$hole and I thought he was better than that. Part of me wants to call and ask him if everything is ok with him and tell him thank you anyway, and a very small part of me is saying "never talk to him again, he doesnt deserve to have you as a friend". That last one sounds the best to me, but he has been my friend since I was 12 years old (8 years now). I recently got a divorce and everytime I have talked to him since then he has been weird. Should I call him and be really straight forward and just flat out ask him if that is why he blew me off? It kinda hurts because I thought he was my friend, but friends dont just not call. Sorry, all of my posts are really long, I just talk a lot! Any advice? It seems to me like every guy in the world is a total jerk, but then I see some women with these great guys and I wonder what planet they came from!

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He could have just gotten busy and really forgot to call many men are like that for now I would wait and let him call you this way you can cool down and the next time he does call you let him know how you feel - good luck and hope things work out for you :)
Well, of course he shouldn't have told you he would call and he shouldn't have agreed to help you and then not follow thru.
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Here is an article that I had which may help you understand...
Top 10 reasons he doesn’t call
Margot Carmichael Lester
10. Mental block
"If I was drunk, I might not really remember the person who goes along with the number," admits Bert, a banker in Newark, Delaware. "Or I might have lost it."
9. The list
"Some gents are building up their very own 'I'm Bored/In Case of Emergency' directory," says Rachel, an administrative secretary in Manhattan. "You won't hear from them in the next week or so, but you'll get a last-minute invitation to a party months later."
8. Burn unit
"I've had a few women give me wrong numbers," says Al, a professor at the University of Minnesota. "After a couple of burns, you wonder if this new woman's lying, too — and you'd rather not find out the hard way."
7. Social grace(less)
"Some men have no idea how to end a conversation tactfully," says Darlene, a Boston-based business reporter. "They ask for a number because they don't have the backbone just to say 'nice to meet you' and walk away."
6. Dream girls
"Sometimes, I don't call because I wake up the next morning thinking she's out of my league," admits Danny, a marketing executive in Houston. "I figure I'll save her the trouble of rejecting me by not calling. It's pretty pathetic, actually."
5. Improving the pool
"I get many numbers over the course of the evening, and then rate them," says Anthony, an attorney in New Iberia, Louisiana. "I'll call the one I like the best. But if she rejects me, I feel it's too late to call choices 2 and 3. So I just start over."
4. Instant gratification
"When we get your number, it's because we're interested in you at that time and place," says Roy, an entrepreneur in San Francisco. "But actually using the number means too much effort. Dinner, a date, which won't happen without many more calls and emails back and forth, then a second date... a third... and gosh, we don't even know if we really like you."
3. The uncertainty principle
"If I ask for your number or email, at best, I'm not certain I'm into you," notes Nigel, a radiologist in Durham, N.C. "If I really wanted to go out with you, I'd go ahead and ask for a date."
2. Vanity
"Some guys collect numbers for self-esteem," divulges Lawrence, a product designer in Los Angeles. "He has no intention of calling her — hell, he might not even like her — but he wants to see if she likes him."
1. Betting man
"Getting or giving digits is like dropping a quarter in a slot machine," says Ted, a writer in Las Vegas. "It may or may not pay off for either of you, but it's a harmless gamble and a bit of fun. What have you got to lose, other than the quarter?"
A quick search can reveal that not all guys have gone bad. But if your guy's just a jerk, get advice from quality professional advisors.
I hope this helps...
tg
P.S. I really liked the "reasons why guys dont call" article.