why do they say they will call?
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why do they say they will call?
| Mon, 08-09-2004 - 6:13pm |
I am just curious why do guys say they will call and never do? I went out with this guy twice, he seemed to have a great time, and I did as well. He even told me he was very attracted to me, and could not wait to see me again. So he said he would call the next day to set up a date, and I have not heard from him in a week. He said he isn't seeing anyone else, he said he wasn't traveling this week, so why would he do this? I am so frustrated. We seemed to have great chemistry and fun together. I did not sleep with him either (so I could understand if I had, then he certainly would not call.) I know he isn't dead or in the hospital either...what gives? I am going away this Thursday for two weeks, should I call him before I leave to say hello or just forget he existed?
Thanks.
Thanks.

In other words, there are dozens of possible reasons why. It doesn't do any good to speculate; all you can do is say "next!" and move on. Calling him is a bad idea; he would have called if he were really interested.
Sheri
Have you ever heard the term: "CLINGY? Men often notice this when they begin to date a woman...and for many of us...it's an uncomfortable trait. This is why we'll tell you we will call...BUT WON'T!
Pianoguy isn't suggesting or implying this trait is something you have.
What you need to remember is the fact that the more interest we show in you...the more you'll get your 'hopes' up! And sometimes a little restraint a lot kinder than making a promise we don't intend to keep.
Pianoguy
I don't know why men don't call, but I wanted to let you know that it's not just those you date. A male friend of mine has got me wondering if it's just men in general. First he keeps telling me to give him a call whenever I'm bored-I can give him a call anytime-I should call him and he will call me right back (since he gets free minutes).
Well, I guess he lost my number so he couldn't give me a call back when I left him a message. Then I see him and when I'm leaving he tells me to give him a call whenever...and I tell him to call me! He makes it a point and asks more than once that my number is written on what I gave him. A couple weeks after that I ended up giving him a call. We went through the same convo on calling. Once again, I told him he could give me a call:) Well, it's probably been a couple weeks and I haven't heard from him.
I don't get it either. It's like, why ask and take the time to make sure you have the number if you're never going to use it! Men! Argh:)
If he's going to call, he will. He may have had a great time, and meant it when he said you are attractive. He may have realized that you were not exactly what you were looking for, so he's just forgotten and moved on. Women need closure, men just do. Women would call the guy and say, "while I did have a great time, I don't think this would work" men don't think that way, and they just don't call again. While it can be annoying to those who don't understand that logic, most men don't like to be confrontational or have to explain their actions/ decisions. You know that if he calls and says, "sorry this won't work" he's going to be fearful that the woman's going to start questioning why and maybe even start getting overly emotional and a lot of men don't know how to deal with that.
Does that make it right? No. But it does make sense.