why does he act like a rubber band

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Registered: 07-12-2004
why does he act like a rubber band
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Mon, 08-09-2004 - 4:33pm
My boyfriends emotions spring back and fourth. One minute he can't keeps his hands off me then the next minute he shield's himself from me. He won't talk to me if something's wrong he's just very alone. Luckly this "alone" stage doesn't last very long, but when he's like that I wonder if I'm doing something wrong. I love when he tells me things and can't keep his hands off me but it worries me when he doesn't want to talk or be around me. Is it me?
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Registered: 05-05-2003
Mon, 08-09-2004 - 4:42pm
It's not you at all. But you will agravate him if he just wants to be alone and you're nattering at him for what's wrong. A lot of guys like to deal with their problems alone, and a lot of women like to talk things out with their peers. Do you see the difference there? Sure, he may open up to you at times, but most likely after he's found a solution to the *problem*, and feels like sharing. Pushing him will only frustrate you both, wait for him to come to you. If he's grumpy or being quiet, you can just say to him, "I'll be over here if you need to talk" and leave it at that. He will appreciate you letting him have his time and will also appreciate you being there for him if needed.

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Registered: 08-04-2004
Mon, 08-09-2004 - 5:09pm
Have you ever read the book Men Are From Mars Women Are From Venus? It says in there that men like to get their space and often times withdrawl from the women they love. This is how men like to deal with things. Men deal with their issues much differently than women do. Women like to open up and discuss issues, usually with everyone. Men like to keep it in and try to figure things out on their own, or talk with a really close friend.

Your man doesn't mean anything by it. Try reading that book. Although it may seem silly it may enlighten you a little.