why doesnt he just let go
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why doesnt he just let go
| Sun, 04-25-2004 - 5:01am |
i met a man online,talked for over a year, lived together for 5 months,till he left. he told me when he left, that he didnt "love" me , he luvs me. 3 weeks after he left, he called me wanting to borrow $$,& over a period of 3-4 mths.he got $700.00 he would tell me, if u love me, you"ll help a "friend", to which i replied, i dont do for any friend, what ive done,& do for you. he told me to find another b\f, & to "just get over him'. i love him with every fiber of my being,& i told him theres absoultey no way, i could never love another man, as much & in the same ways i love him. suddenly for the last month, he has called faithfully, every am & pm & asks me, well have u got a new b\f? have u had sex with another man? id like to know, if he doesnt want me, & doesnt wanna be with me, 1 why does he call? 2 why is he always asking about sex, with another man? 3 why doesnt he just forget me, so that i can try & go on, alone. he does tell me that he "loves me" but that its just him,& in both of our own best interests, that he not be with me. he has no problems posting personal ads, on the www. & then tells me, u better not post any ads, its too dangerous, u dont know what your doing, your doing it all wrong.if he wants me to as he put it "get over him", then why does he continue 2 call me,& ask about my personal life,& tell me he loves me?

PS. If you want this guy to go away, stop letting him control and manipulate you. He's nothing more than a schoolyard bully. And bullies only give attention to people they can victimize. If you stop being a victim, he'll realize he's wasting his time and move onto the next unsuspecting victim.
I'd suggest cutting the cord on this one completely.
This is a very dangerous game that your playing and I think you need to evaluate this situation and figure out what exactly you are getting out of this relationship. Once thats done, you will see that it doesn't amount to much. And the cost will not just be the money you are giving him, it will be your self esteem.
Best of Luck,
Kim