Why Doesn't he want sex?

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Registered: 12-09-2005
Why Doesn't he want sex?
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Mon, 12-12-2005 - 3:03pm

I am a 36 year old woman who has been dating a really nice 35 yr old guy for a month now. We have not slept together. He is not pressuring me to have sex, but I am confused that he doesn't want to progress further. I've invited him back to my apartment a couple of times. We either ended up making out or fooling around without actually having intercourse. This weekend, I invited him up again, and he said he had to go home and let his dog out (he lives about 1/2 hour from my place). The last date we had, we ended up driving seperately to meet to an exhibit and go to dinner. Then he gave me a goodbye kiss and said see you soon. Usually he says he will call and not "see you soon". I know he is going to be out of town for the next couple of weekends for Christmas/holidays. So, I'm starting to feel unattractive and I feel he is not as attracted to me as I would like. I really don't know where to go at this point. We've had eight dates so far, and it's been a little over a month. I don't doubt his interest, but I think it seems unusual that he doesn't want to sleep with me or take that opportunity.

Anyone have any thoughts?

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Registered: 08-23-2004
Mon, 12-12-2005 - 3:09pm
I hate to say it but there is only one thought that comes to my mind
gay and not out of the closet yet
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Registered: 11-28-2005
Mon, 12-12-2005 - 3:10pm

Have you discussed what "having sex" with you obligates him to.

Or is this a free offer for sexual gratification with no strings attached?

Erin
quickblade14@hotmail.com

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Mon, 12-12-2005 - 8:48pm

You've only known him a few weeks.

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Registered: 12-23-2003
Mon, 12-12-2005 - 10:35pm

It could be any number of things...


But let's think positively, first.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 12-15-2005 - 9:31am

musikrocks1...

Quick question from PG:

Have you considered the possibility that while the gentleman you're seeing likes to be in your company, IT'S NOT NECESSARILY AN INDICATION HE WANTS TO TAKE YOU INTO HIS BED?

The misconception about men (that a lot of women seem to have) is that we're out to score on or before date #3?

Granted...some men want one thing and one thing only. But there are still many of us who realize that once we sleep with you...the "friendship/relationship" we've shared together will automatically go through a change!

Since one or two of us aren't in a hurry to see that 'change' occur...we'll try to be polite, but we'll also avoid giving you any false impressions about our feelings!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 12-15-2005 - 7:20pm

Well, it's uncomfortable but something you do need to address.

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