Why don't women trust good looking men +

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Registered: 05-17-2004
Why don't women trust good looking men +
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Wed, 06-07-2006 - 1:29am

So why dont you trust good looking men with their lifes together. Im talking career, no kids, independent, no baggage, no marriage etc...

What is the problem here? Is it an insecurity issue that he can do better and why he chose you? Im just curious as to why women dont trust good looking men. If women were confident in themselves they would not have trust issues correct?

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Wed, 06-07-2006 - 2:29am

Perhaps it's the perception that he could be a player, generalisation that may be?

Personally, looks mean squat when it comes to trust - it's a character thing, not a looks thing. I'm blonde. I look like the 'stereotype'. Doesn't mean I'm stupid, girly or naive. I'm not any of those things and I hate being considered as such purely based on my looks. So it'd be hypocritical of me to not trust someone simply based on their physical appearance (unless they're coming at me with a weapon, but I'm figuring I wouldn't care so much about their looks at that stage lol).

I believe in trusting, but also in being realistic and not naive. It's how a person presents themselves in their behaviour and the things they say and do, over a period of time, that I make my decision on how trustWORTHY they are.

Having a partner who is not behaving in a trustWORTHY manner is undoubtedly going to cause some level of mistrust within the other partner, male or female. I wouldn't call that insecure, but rather being cautious and wary of mistreatment and/or of being disrespected.

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That's a pretty patronising statement, IMO. Say your partner was behaving in a completely inappropriate manner - in your opinion - by flirting - in your opinion - too much with another guy. Does that mean you are not confident in yourself, or is it simply that she's displaying behaviours that might cause you to doubt her integrity...and therefore potentially minimise your trust in her? Confidence in your SELF and trust in your PARTNER don't necessarily have to go hand in hand in that situation.




Edited 6/7/2006 2:34 am ET by pureatheart11

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Registered: 03-16-2006
Wed, 06-07-2006 - 9:39am
Trust is something to be earned regardless of looks. Although I'd say some women are more worried about a good looking guy because they know how easy other women can be. I'm not one of those women, good looks do not blindside me. I need to know his character is worthy of me.
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Registered: 11-21-2005
Wed, 06-07-2006 - 1:14pm

I wouldn't say I don't trust good-looking men...then again, I have a wide range of what kinds of men look good to me.