Why is he still cheating?
hi
Two years ago I dated a guy who showed me a lot of interest and care and love, I responded to his emotions until I got sophicated, it was too much so i started to be a rubber band as i needed my space. He was really hurt with my behavior and I hated the fact that I could hurt him as I had been hurt two years earlier after a 7 years relationship. Anyway, one day I received a text msg from his ex to let me know that he was still sleeping with her. I was totally shocked and deceived as he made me feel so special at the time and there was no sign at all of cheating. I met her, she was a lovely girl. I confronted him about this, he denied it at first till I told him I had met with her. He was distraught and told me all the bla bla bla htat a girl wants to hear. It was November and I just couldn't leave him because I just didn't want to spend xmas on my own, I had suffer a lot the past year. See, I am a French native leaving in Ireland and I do feel really isolated and lonely most of time since my past relationship ended.
Anyway, we stayed together, I really felt for the other girl cause I knew exaclty what she was going through but I was being selfish and just wanted company. Now, I also had some feelings for him but as the months went by I started again to be a rubber band, thinking also of what he had done and was he still in contact with her as she had gone to Australia for a year. To get the story short, he was in contact with her but I had no problem with it as I still ahd contact with my exes family till he started to say taht at least she loved him her. meaning not me. I did care for him but I couldnt' stop thinking of his cheating. We went on holidays for a month and it was nice, he wanted us to move in together etc...yet he was still in contact with her. Also, he had a very high sex drive and his whole thing is more or less based on this when I would be more quality. I just couldnt' live with someone whom I couldnt trust 100%. So last November we boke up and didn't i predicted everything, his ex was then back within 2-3weeks and they are back together now. But since, he has been cheating on her with me. Now, I know, I am not really proud with this but I cannot understand why does he do this? Please Dr Ruth, help me to see clearly. His affection with her and I are the same on his behaviour side of it which is a bit strange. Can you help me figure this out and what should I do?
thank you
kind REgards
AM