Why the "if"s??
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Why the "if"s??
| Fri, 08-11-2006 - 1:30pm |
I've been dating a guy that I really like occasionally (he travels often) for about two months now. I was at first confused as to whether or not he liked me (although I will also be the first to admit that I can be quite paranoid when I like someone) because he seemed very guarded whenever we spoke and wasn't typically very proactive about making plans. Upon the advice of a guy friend of mine, I started trying to make it more obvious that I really was interested in him (so a big part of the problem could have been me) and he was almost instantly responsive (making plans, always contacting me first, etc.). I just recently spent the night at his place for the first time and I feel like it went well, but he does this "if" thing...we were joking around about something and he at first said, "I'll have to remember that for next time," and then he seemed to catch himself or second-guess himself a few moments later and said, "if there is a next time." What the hell is that?? He does it pretty often, though, so I'm not THAT concerned (ie he said something about IF you stay over about a thousand times but was very proactive about making plans and clearing out his schedule), but it just bugs me. I've asked him about it and he says that he does that a lot "just in case" and not to get his hopes up. I feel like he might have been concerned that I didn't want there to be a next time (last time he said that he had put it that way in case I couldn't come or backed out). I tend to do that internally, but I don't feel that I'd actually SAY it that way to someone. Is he just being dense and/or paranoid or is he not that interested??
