Why isn't he calling???

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Registered: 09-30-2003
Why isn't he calling???
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Sun, 05-02-2004 - 12:51am
I've posted about this before but I would really appreciate some insight, especially from any guys out there...

I've been in a long-distance relationship for about 6 weeks now. My boyfriend has been in Boston doing an elective. We last spoke on the phone on Monday, and I told him I would try to call him later in the week. I phoned him on Thursday, but got an answering machine and left a message. On Friday, I tried phoning again and I got his roommate, and she told me that he had rebooked his ticket and left for Michigan. He'd been planning to leave on Sunday. Anyway, I emailed him Friday because on Monday we'd discussed me coming to Michigan to visit him, and I wanted to let him know that I'd booked a plane ticket for May 7.

I haven't heard anything from him, and I'm starting to panic. I can only think of a few logical explanations... something awful has happened to him (like he got hit by a car) so he is physically unable to email or phone me. Or maybe he got my email and is planning to phone me so he didn't respond. Or maybe he didn't get my email because he's been busy and doesn't have internet access in Michigan. Still, I can't figure out why he wouldn't phone me. 5 days just seems like a long time. Please help.

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Sun, 05-02-2004 - 7:46am
First of all, I would say he probably hasnt been hit by a car...so...breathe easy on that one. Secondly, I also am in a LDR. The only way it can survive is if you two have a conversation really detailing what you expect from one another in the way of phone call frequency, exclusivity, etc. As to why he hasnt called you, probably because you two havent had this talk yet. I predict if you havent heard from him yet, you will soon. Good luck and post back as to what happens.
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Registered: 07-24-2003
Sun, 05-02-2004 - 10:34am
I agree with bg on this one...

 
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Registered: 09-30-2003
Sun, 05-02-2004 - 1:46pm
Thanks for the messages... they definitely helped calm me down. I guess one of the things I'm finding really difficult is just that we really only knew each other for 3 weeks when we decided to give the long-distance thing a try. I've been holding off on communicating more clearly with him about needs and expectations because I didn't want to scare him off by making things sound serious.

I'll try my best not to worry about this anymore.

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Registered: 09-30-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 8:33pm
So just to follow up on my situation, my guy emailed me yesterday. I feel a bit sheepish now but will definitely take to heart your suggestions about having a discussion with him about calling frequency and other things.

Thanks to everyone who told me not to panic.