Why isn't he spending time with me?
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Why isn't he spending time with me?
| Sat, 08-07-2004 - 6:55pm |
My boyfriend and I have been dateing for 2 months offcially but for 8 unoffically. Well the first month was great and now for the past two weeks he has been wanting to spend alot of time with his friends. He doesn't invite me out with him anymore. I am lucky if I get to see him three times a week. I don't know what to do because when I talk to him on the phone he is normal and when I see him he is normal. I just want to know if I should let him spend this much time with his friends or should I break it off with him? Give me so things to say to him. To ask him why he isn't spending much time with me.

Unless he has told you that he does not want a relationship, I don't think anything is especially wrong. He is probably tring to keep his friendships in check, that's all. I mean, don't YOU still have friends? Surely he does'nt expect you to give up YOUR friends for him, right?
The key words in that sentence are "if I should let him". Is this honestly how you think and feel? If so then he is likely seeing that you need to have more control over his daily life than he is willing to give up at this time. After only two months of official time together you have no right at all to try and control him like that. He does not need your permission to see his friends. Continue this controlling attitude and he will dump you - its that simple.
You see each other 3 times a week - thats not bad. How much do you feel you should see each other? Show some appreciation for the time you do have together and he will want to increase that time over time. It will be very important for him to retain some balance in his life with his friends and other obligations.