Why leave with no goodbye?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-14-2004
Why leave with no goodbye?
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Sun, 11-14-2004 - 9:36am
I have a question for boys to answer:

I been in regualry contact with a guy for a year. We met on an online-dating service, and started out very friendly just-for-fun contact. We are both in relitionships, and we have both shared thaughts of this with eachother. All the time the tone between us has been funny, and neither has expressed how we feel for each other emotionally, just physically.

Well, we have met five times during this months, but have not slept together, even though this has been in the air the past two months. Cause we spend one night together in last of august, and ever since that we waited for a chance like that again. He has mailed me, called me, texted me that he want to meet again. But suddenly, a month ago he stopped responding. I mailed him a little kinky e-mail, and when he didnt replie on that I waited for almost three weeks before I texted him one sms asking where he is hiding and if he stikcing to his partner or something else,-but he has not replid. And he has stopped beeing on the dating sentral too. He has only been there once a week, and before he was there alomost every day.

My questions are:

1) Why did he just stop?

2) Why did he just stop even without a goodbye?

I do not expect an explanation, but I do think it's sad he didnt even bother to just end it. He could said:" We cannot meet no more," but he has not said anything. Just like our contact never happened.

Please share your thaughts about this, cause I do not understand why I even wasen't worthy a "go to hell" line

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-10-2003
Sun, 11-14-2004 - 10:08pm
Hon, since your relationship was one of "just for fun" there is NO obligation on either part to say goodbye. People do it because they can and in this case it appears that he was looking for fun and nothing more. You met, had a good time and almost slept together. Now, he's gone and perhaps he's met another woman who caught his attention. It's also possible that he'll pop up again to continue where you left off. Don't give it too much thought, his book says that he can "disppear" without notice.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-11-2004
Sun, 11-14-2004 - 11:15pm
I disagree with the last post answering you. I think he shows some lack of class or style not saying something to you or responding. This shouldnt be someone you want to see again. no one needs totreat someone like they dont exist --regardless of the circumstance. Find someone better since you obviously think it is wrong how he acted and wouldnt treat someone else like that. What goes around, comes around.