why men don't call & other questions
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why men don't call & other questions
| Wed, 05-26-2004 - 7:58am |
i'm new to the dating scene after having broken up with my bf of 6+ years in december. recently i met two really nice guys thru the personals. one lives 2 hours away, the other just 30 minutes. i thought i'd get something going on with at least one of them but now i'm afraid both are disappearing on me. i don't act needy, cold, or do anything pathological. the first guy, whom i met a month ago, has yet to really 'touch' me although he talks a lot about being attracted to me. after spending a day with him sunday, i just get a rather lame email that talks about the weather and thanks me for showing him around my part of the world. no mention of a followup date. the guy who lives nearby, whom i met a week ago, isn't such a talker but he kissed me goodnight on our second date. however, here it is wednesday and he hasn't called about seeing me again! i know this is the getting-to-know-you stage for both but i hate not knowing what's going on with these guys, particularly the one i just met. should i take the lead with him or wait for the call? as for the first guy, i've already decided i'll let him suggest the next meeting.
thanks for your help,
marva
thanks for your help,
marva

-they are busy
-they want to see if a woman emotionally dependent on them
-they just like a challenge, or a mystery. so they let time pass so that way they have time to miss the woman
-they are casually dating other women
So relax a bit, he will call you. If not, there's other fish in the sea.
Nothing could be further from the truth. If you look at dating sort of like an "interview process" (sorry if that sounds tactless)rather than a means toward your life partner, you should be able to relax and have fun- and someday learn enough to meet a guy who you want to stick with.
Not every date is going to lead to a second, third or a real relationship. Try and take 'em with a grain of salt and never give up. Stay positive and look for the qualities that you want in a man.
Best Wishes!
Not saying you're wrong to do those things, but I've just had too many disappointing experiences to have any expectations, especially on the first few dates. A guy really has to wow me to get me to dress up and clean my house...and it's not going to happen before date 5 or so!
Sheri
As to house, I clean it every sunday and that's it. If he thinks its not "clean" enough then chances are he isn't my Mr Right ;-)
Have fun...
My bf mentioned the other day that I never dress up and I replied, "if you want to me with my hair done and a fancy dress - take me somewhere fancy!"