Why would he do that?

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Registered: 06-26-2004
Why would he do that?
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Sat, 09-03-2005 - 7:39pm
Hi im joy, and im unable to understand guys, well at least this guy!
We go to the same university, and we've hooked up a couple of times before...
He spent the hole summer in his hometown working and now that he got back he calls and asks if i wanna hang out, i say yes, what about going to the movies? He says sure but he's got an exam next thursday so he cant make it until then (we talked last sunday) so i propossed next friday, he said that he didnt really know, he might be going out with some friends.. but he promised to call me and let me know what day and where we could get together. I just find all of this odd...
I can understand that he wants to hang out with his friends, he's just gotten back and he hasnt seen them since june. Well the thing is that i havent heard from him since last sunday, it's almost been a week now.
Did he just wanted to make sure that i still wanna date him or does he really have the intention of dating me?
I really like his guy and sometimes im so sure that he's also into me, but sometimes i have no idea. Could use some advice, anyone?
Tnx
Joy
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Registered: 05-05-2003
Sat, 09-03-2005 - 10:20pm

Joy,

Keep pressing for *date* like things, dinner, movies, etc. and do not go over to hang out at his place or have him over (where the opportunity to "hook up" becomes available) and you'll have your answer soon enough.

Since he dodged your request for a movie, you may have to accept that he doesn't think of you as girlfriend material and move on. Remember, you said he called you to "hang out", not to "go out and do something".

But if you do get him to agree to dates, and go out with him more, then I would withold on the "hook up" sessions until you guys have had a *talk* about what you're wanting here.

And if he tells you that he's unsure, or isn't ready for a gf, then believe him. You won't be able to make him want you as a gf if he's not wanting it, and no amount of giving him what he wants physically will change that- so do not agree to a "friends with benefits" situation. You deserve to have a guy who's into being with you and dating you, not just around for sex once in a while.

Alison

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