Will he call?
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| Mon, 05-21-2007 - 7:29pm |
Hello all!
I am just new to the "dating" game and had a few questions. I met a man out one night with friends... we hit it off and he asked for my number. He called a few days later and our conversation was light, he didn't mention a date but asked for my email address. He emailed and asked me out to lunch... (my schedule is pretty hectic, and I travel quite a bit) so our date was actually scheduled two weeks from then. Well, he contacted me on and off through email and text messaging with comments like "looking forward to seeing you and etc." Well two hours before our date, he called and cancelled? He did mention rescheduling but I kind of blew it off because I assumed he just got cold feet about our date or that he wasn't interested enough. Well I didn't contact him and he called me Sunday night and asked if I still wanted to do lunch with him. So I said okay, but I'm going to Chicago for training and the only day I had was today for lunch and he agreed... we had a great time, laughed, talked, etc. My question is what is the dating rule here, should I wait for him to contact me for a second date? Do I call him?

I don't know the dating "rules" either, but I would think that he would have contacted you since your lunch and you two would have discussed seeing each other again. If you haven't called him, then call and let him know you really enjoyed your first date and look forward to seeing him again. If he doesn't respond to that, you can always follow it up with, "so when will I see you again?" That's a pretty clear statement that you want him to ask you out again. I don't follow "rules" and I generally don't do any formal asking out on dates initially but as a relationship develops it is easier to do so. I have just found that guys like to take the lead in the initial stages of dating, but they also like a woman to show that she is definitely interested in him.
I have done inviting on a casual level, like if a group of people are getting together I have invited guys to join us, like, "a bunch of us are going to be at xx bar, so if you are interested that's where we'll be." But it comes across differently than asking someone out on an actual date.
Sometimes it works for women to ask a guy out. It varies.
Wait for him to contact you. If you ask him out again, you won't know if he's truly interested in you or just going because he had nothing better to do. If he really wants to see you again, he knows how to get ahold of you.
Carole
Well, here's an update. He called tonight... asked when I was coming home from being out of town and wants to get together this weekend. Lucky me, I had a plan of attack to be busy all weekend but he still wants to somehow get together. I am glad I played it cool and resisted the urge to contact him.
:)