Will he leave?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2004
Will he leave?
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Thu, 10-28-2004 - 12:19am
I am a 25 year old woman that hasn’t ever had a serious relationship. I feel like I have dated a large amount of guys and have had boyfriends no longer than 3-6 months. I honestly think that I am not good enough for a relationship. For some reason I have that in my head! Annoying! I am attractive and have a lot of things going for me.

I have met a man and have been with him for one month. Everything is perfect and I am excited about every aspect. I am so paranoid that he will leave me. I always have those thoughts in my mind because I used to find one fault in a guy and cut him off cold turkey. Now I am a freak and I am paranoid this will happen to me.

I am really trying to take one day at a time and not panick. I tend to have jealous tendencies towards exes as well. I cant barely take it when guys even talk about there exez. I think because I had a hard time moving on (only in my younger days).

I guess I have low self esteem? I feel confident in my professional career and with my family and friends. When it comes to a man that I am interested in I feel so stupid!!

Help! What is wrong with me?? I don’t want to be STUPID!

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-20-2004
Thu, 10-28-2004 - 7:49am
Yes I would agree you have low self esteem. What about trying some short term counseling?
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-09-2003
Thu, 10-28-2004 - 3:04pm
Wow, it sounds here like you are talking about me! I am also 25 and have never been in a relationship for longer than 3 or 4 months. I also have the same fears with new relationships. I've come a long way just trying to work on myself. I would agree you have low self-esteem and that's something you need to work on in order to get past these issues. I struggle with the same things and I am slowly realizing that I am worth something and that I too can one day have a long-term relationship like everyone else. It's not easy....you have to learn to let go of the past. Counseling really isn't a bad idea at all....sometimes you can't do it on your own and you need help from someone else. Hope this helped a little, even if it's just to let you know you're not alone.