Will i ever get over him?

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Registered: 11-24-2004
Will i ever get over him?
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Wed, 12-01-2004 - 9:10am

Hello everyone- heres my story!

My boyfriend (mark) of 2 months has dumped me about a week ago n i was totally and utterly besotted with him, the only bad thing about it he was my ex boyfriends work mate, thats how we met. We got toegether behind my ex's bk and had a good relationship. I always knew he was a bit of a player but when he met me i thought he had changed, he told me he loved me, introduced me to his family and our sex life was fantastic! Last weekend he arrnaged to go and see his cousin in london, i didnt mind because i knew it was thing he normally done. On sunday i got a text message saying "i cant be with you because im going to hurt you, things aren't gonna work out between us, im so sorry" . I was in pieces. i didnt even no why, the last thing he said to me before he went to london was that he loved me and he would pick me up from work sunday night, so i thought everything was fine.

I got in touch wit him that night and after the whole afternoon of turning his fone off and ignoring me textes, i caught him on his house fone. We chatted and he said that he jus wanted to be single and enjoy himself and said he would keep in touch. i sort of began to accept it until i met back up with my ex who works with him. We got talking and he sed that mark was round his ex girlfriends all day sunday! my heart sank i knew he had now dumped me to be back with his ex girlfried and didnt really go to london after all! i ended up telling my ex i was seeing his mate mark and he was really cool about it and has been really supportive. Ive tried texting mark to see if he was back with her and i sent him a nasty text message and changed my number and since a week ive had no reply and probably never will! since then ive heard mark and his ex are really happy, so all along he lied and didnt wanna be single. He used to slag his ex off all the time? and now he is back with her y is she better than me, he said that she got on his nerves, i dont understand?

Now i cant sleep or eat, i cant believe he has done this and it aint the first time ive been hurt by other blokes either! im only 16! ive been hanging around with my ex as without him i would of ended up doing something silly to myskef and now i dont no whether i wanna get bk with my ex? my head is so confused and i miss mark so much though i cant stop thinking about him, but my ex has been so kind and loving i wish i neva met mark now!

What shall i do, how will i get over him i feel so lonely
Thanks Hayley xx




Edited 12/1/2004 9:28 am ET ET by leannexx2004
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Registered: 11-06-2004
Wed, 12-01-2004 - 7:25pm

Hayley, you're so young! You still have plenty of maturing and growing up to do, you'll get over it and eventually find the love of your life.

TRUST ME.

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Registered: 11-09-2004
Thu, 12-02-2004 - 2:32pm
hi there,
It happened to me as well, at the age of 18. I fell in love with the most amazing guy, and 2 years later we broke up. In fact, my parents decided to emmigrate to Canada, so I left my boyfriend back in Europe, promissing him that I will invite him to Canada.
I got a letter FROM HIS BROTHER, about 3 months after I left, saying that John was getting married (he was 4 years older than me)..Yah, he got married at 22. So, I cried, I didn't sleep for days, I had to cope with living in a different continent, but when I went back and saw his wife, I laughed. I knew he was going to regret it, because she was not nearly what I thought she'd be. And, guess what, I went back to Europe in April, and that was the first time I saw him in 9 years. He told me he'd do anything to have me back...but, now I'm married with a child...
I guess what I'm trying to tell you, is that is going to be hard for a while (John was my first boyfriend, if you know what I mean)...You may not feel like eating or sleeping, but you have to keep in mind that you DIDN'T DO anything wrong...There is a God, and HE's not sleeping. What you need to do is not show him how hurt you are, even thou your heart bleeds in the inside. And, just like in my situation, there will be a time and place when is his turn...and when that comes, that will be your revenge.
Show him that you don't care and you're happy...that's the key.
take care, and let us know how it goes.